| Subject: Re: Help, I don't love my drug addict husband anymore |
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Date Posted: 09:47:40 01/23/04 Fri
In reply to:
cathy
's message, "Re: Help, I don't love my drug addict husband anymore" on 01:48:56 12/28/03 Sun
I can relate to what you are going through. My partner of 6 years has always been an addict. In the past he's always kept ownership of those problems but now he's trying to blame me (and everyone else for that matter) for his drug use. I'm getting to that point as well where I'm losing my love for this man. I am very forgiving and having had drug issues myself when I was younger, I've always liked to think that everyone gets better eventually. I've always believed that giving someone enough time and patience was the key.
But now I must admit that some people just never learn. My partner had a rough childhood which included 2 instances of getting raped/molested when he was ony 9. He has yet to get help for this. Until he does he wil always have a drug problem.
We are on a "break" right now but I honestly don't see how it is helping us at all. If anything its giving him the ability to be an addict w/out someone bitching about it over his shoulder. I'm pretty much used to him not being around since he is habitually gone all night long. I'm a full time student trying to get my own life on track so we rarely see eachother for more than a couple hours at a time anyways.
I'm thinking its time for us to redefine our relationship. I do like him as a person and when we do things together we do have a good time and for that its worth having him around. Not everyone is cut out to be able to sustain a traditional relationship. Maybe its time for me (and for you) to make an honest decision on what your expectations for any relationship are? If he trully is bring you down, maybe all he's capable of is friendship and that's OK too. Friendships typicaly last longer than most relationships anyways. Good Luck.
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