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Date Posted: 08:50:45 05/08/07 Tue
Author: Rachel
Subject: My boyfriend is an ex-addict, i'd like some advice

I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and he did tell me on like the first date that he had a heroin addiction problem in the past.
Now days he uses pot but a very small amount and about once every couple of months he likes say an E or Acid. He is totally addicted to coffee and cigarettes without fail.
He often pressures me to take drugs with him and says he's been dreaming about an E with me everysince we met. I never have.

Now i find out through coincidence working with a friend of his from Downing where he used to live whilst he was with the mother of his son, he stole all her savings ($$ adding up to a home loan), spent it on heroin and was shooting up in front of his son as well as having affairs with other women. They were together 3 years so i'm not sure if he was on heroin for some of the time or all of the time. She also said that he has spent all his aunts inheritence on heroin.
He has always acted as though she is this awful woman for keeping his son away from him. When they split he left Downing and travelled to a new place where he lived for 2 years before coming back to City X where she now lives. So this heroin addiction happened about 5 years ago.
I knew that before that he has been an addict in city he grew up in, and had gone to an isolated place in the bush to quit before finding himself in Downing.

I'm so scared now, that he's never told me this and i look back in the past at things that have happened. Like that he has a t shirt with a picture of someone shooting up on in and underneath reads "rehab is for quitters". He has just started seeing his son (9) again and i'm worried that he might encourage him to take drugs when he comes of age the same way he does to me.

It worries me that he doesn't have anything of value and that he doesn't know how to handle cash and that the only reason he doesn't take harder drugs is because he can't afford to. Or perhaps he has beat the physical addiction but not the psychological?

All in all he has lied to me about everything, or perhaps just manipulated the truth.

Is it possible to manage your use and minmise harm? or will he never have anything to show for his life.

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