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Date Posted: 07:08:57 05/12/07 Sat
Author: john (feelin' mellow)
Subject: Re: My boyfriend is an ex-addict, i'd like some advice
In reply to: Rachel 's message, "My boyfriend is an ex-addict, i'd like some advice" on 08:50:45 05/08/07 Tue

well, my two cents worth is this. if he's stolen from his family, he'll steal from you. i don't think he'd encourage a young person to a life of using, that is simply ridiculous. my self image and behaviour is wrapped up in drug use and has been for approximately eighteen to twenty years, so I guesss i'm a fool, but certainly not an idiot. it is possible to manage your use and to minimize harm, but it takes effort and the desire, not to mention will power to stay with your self adminstered program. that's basically what i do, but it is hard and i go over board a few more times than i'd like to, but all in all my success rate is aboutsixty/forty, sixty percewnt successful and forty percent fucking up, but look at the subject we're dealing with here and addict who is self medicating attempting to set up a regimen of use so that one could have a somewhat managable life. it is hard. thank the universe i have a loving woman of eleven years who has been trying to teach me the wonderful world of moderation. she enjoys the pills and all, but in moderation y'know, god bless her. fortunately, i'm not a liar or a thief. i am many things but i'm not either of those. a user with a conscience and an ability to empathize and sympathize. i'm sorry about his constant lying to you, perhaps tell him, "look, i can take alot, but i won't stand for you to be lying to me all the time, so start to try to get that behaviour toward me out of your head, sooner the better. and if I see progress towards some trusting between us then that will be great, so take it or leave it." if after 'x' amount of time has gone by and no significant changes in behaviour are discernable, then maybe it's time to break it off. we live in a fucked up society in the ol' USA, i hope we make it before all those wrinkly old men at the top running the show don't ruin it for the rest of us by starting another more or less world wide military conflagration y'know. hope you work it out between you and your boyfriend OK. take care and loveth to you, a new member on this forum, john a.

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