Date Posted:07:16:34 05/22/08 Thu Author:Asha Subject: Re: my partner is a heroin addict In reply to:
toni ramsden
's message, "my partner is a heroin addict" on 21:25:38 03/07/08 Fri
Not sure if you're still checking this forum, but if you are you've probably noticed that if you are looking for a reply right away, this is not the place, as people only seem to post every once-in-a-while. Hope things are going better with you. What happened with your boyfriend? As to your question, no one can really tell you what to expect from him. Just as no 2 people are alike, no 2 heroin addicts are alike. I am sure that he didn't intend to hurt you & he is not going to "just forget about you & your kids without a thought", but drugs can make some people do things that they would never normally do. The way heroin works is to make your brain & body think that it's neccessary for survival, in fact, more important than food or shelter, or the people you love, or anything else. He cannot help how he feels & how horrifically painful, both mentally & physically, it is if he has to go without heroin. So even if he stole from you & didn't come back, it was probably more out of guilt & thinking you would be better off without him, than him not caring. It sounds to me like his addiction has taken over & his brain thinks getting drugs is more important than anything else, even if deep down he knows that it wrong. However, that does not excuse his behaviour or make it ok. Sometimes, even if we love someone, if being with them is harmful, we must put ourselves & our family first.
