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>>>"I don't think Peter is accusing you of lying >Barbara" >>> >>>Well I disagree. >> >>I have not accused you of lying. It is not a matter of >>opinion. That is a statement of fact. >>> >>>What's more, he has also accused me of "ganging up" >on >>>him. Scroll down, and you'll find that howler sure >>>enough. >>> >> >>I think you misread what I actually said. I said that >>you might receive an invitation from someone else to >>gang up one me. He is someone who is inclined to use >>the word abuse the way you do, without clarification, >>because he likes the fact that people will assume he >>means sexual abuse....and that the JA will therefore >>be unjustly damaged by it. >> >>You can't expect people to swallow a dictionary when >>they are talking on forums. If you are accusing >>someone of abuse, people (almost any and all of them) >>will assume you mean sexual abuse. You know this. So >>doing it anyway opens you up to the sort of response I >>have given you. >> >>I still don't understand why you can say I am bullying >>you, Barbara. I am just arguing with you. If you raise >>yet another accusation against me, am I not supposed >>to respond? For someone who hates conflict, your >>attitude to me is very provocative. >> >>I have managed to hold back for a year or more from >>criticising your tendency to use terms like abuse. If >>I really was a nasty bully, I could have waded in a >>long time ago. Others with whom I have corresponded >>have commented with concern about the allegations you >>make and the language you use, and despite feeling >>strongly about it, I have only now commented on it >>because you allegation was really grave and >>misleading. I have talked about this with you in >>private email in the past, so you were not unaware of >>the impact such language can have. >> >>I work in a profession where teachers are frequently >>accused of abuse of one sort or another, and where >>countless decent, hard-working professionals have had >>their careers blighted by malicious parents and >>children who accuse them of abuse to punish them for >>them having felt slighted, for their child having been >>put in detention etc. I have personally supported >>numerous innocent teachers whose eventual >>reinstatement did not begin to compensate for months, >>or even years of suspension, suspicion, stress and >>misery. One teacher friend will never have the >>confidence to teach again. >> >>Regardless of people's grievances against others, >>making an unfounded allegation is evil, in my opinion. >>So using a word which you know will most likely be >>misinterpreted and deliberately not qualifying the use >>of the word (because of the impact you know it will >>have) is something that makes me very angry indeed. > > >This is just baloney Barbara as never mentioned >anything about being sexually abused or of any sexual >abuse in the Jesus Army she used the words abused with >reference to spiritual and bullying that is very plain >to see from any half intelligent reader. It is very >plain that this was in her adult life in the Jesus >Army. Stop trying to tell other people how to read and >think it so unbecoming and treating the reader as some >kind of idiot. This is more to do with your own >insecurities and trauma about the fact that >allegations where made against you by the Jesus Army. >As a obseverer I don't think you have ever moved on >from the Jesus Army or the cult mentality. If they did >to me what they did to you I would have stayed well >away. I find it very strange that you should be >beating a path to there door. I find it distasteful >the way you are treating Barbara. Stop adding to her >already traumatized state. What she says happened >happened nobody would spend so much energy and time >and lucid recollections on the subject if they were >not true and stop believing the Jesus Army's sanitized >version of events. I am very aware how they can twist >there way out of some of the damage they do.
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