Subject:  What a tremendous gift!!!!! |
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Gary
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Date Posted: 07:29:23 05/14/04 Fri
Author Host/IP: 207.69.137.36
In reply to:
Victoria
's message, "love" on 19:58:09 05/13/04 Thu
Dearest Victoria,
Isn't life interesting? What you are experiencing is not what you ever expected to encounter, was it?
If we start from the beginning, we are here on the Earth to develop our mastery of agape love. Agape love is unconditional love. It is love given simply because life works best that way. Relationships are the means for us to eventually come to see this fact about life, and to slowing move in that direction.
Please understand, you and your boyfriend didn't met by accident. There is a sacreness with romantic relationships, though the purpose may not be as we had thought. You were meant to have this relationship with him, just as he with you. What neither of you know is the purpose for this encounter.
Unfortunately, being romantically involved with somebody is about the hardest way of seeing the purpose behind the encounter. You can well atest to this fact because you have been left in a state of confusion. You don't know what to make of your experience to date.
In your message, there were a few key clues. The first was: "At first I stayed away in fear of being hurt..." For you, this is NOT the best state from which to create a good relationship. What happened to you in life for this fear condition to be present? You come into a relationship with this fear state operational, and eventually the other person could pick up on it.
Another clue: and "made me fall in love like no other." Well, you are giving him way to much credit. He didn't do this to you! He simply created (probably as much by accident) the conditions that allowed you to fall in love with him. If you are not meant to have a relationship with him, he would be totally unable to create the conditions necessary for you to fall in love with him. Again, the dynamics for love are within you, not him.
You said: "...I'm so confused at the moment..." Fantastic! Until you are confused, and you don't know what to do next, or which direction to turn, there is no hope for you to try a new route.
Conclusion: When you decided to become you, and live this life on Earth, you wished for this situation to develope. This is a gift you gave yourself for spiritual growth. Well, you now have the gift. Really, really review who you are and how you respond in situations like this. This situation is ALL about you (and not him). Look at the situation from above it, as if you were a friend observing the two of you as the relationship developed. Now, what do you see, and how would you act differently knowing what you now know?
Also, where is your fear causing you to take certain actions? How can you see life differently than how your fear sees life? How can you build your being without the presence of that fear?
The above gives you plenty to ponder.
Now, let me leave you with some more thoughts. First, you are a spiritual being. You are capable of much, much agape love. Agape love is love for others withOUT your being a doormate to others. It is a love that INCLUDES yourself, and an ability to put loving and protective boundaries around yourself.
Finally, the heavens are filled with angels, guides and masters that are trying to help and guide you in your life. Being young, you probably have not developed yet the ability to sense their guidance. But you can, slowly but surely.
In summary, bless your boyfriend. Let him sort out his situation with your supportive unconditional love. If you can give him space to stay or leave, depending upon his wishes, you will have gone a long, long what toward receiving the type of relationship you really desire. Remember, you are young and there will be more relationships ahead for you. As you can grow spirtually, the quality of your relationships will also grow (and your ability to handle greater relationship challenges).
In closing, thank you for having the ability to handle this confusion and situation. As each of us contribute to the world by the handling of our own worlds, we contribute to the world's spiritual growth! You are part of that contribution, and you deserve much credit for tackling such a common, and difficult, challenge.
Love,
Gary
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