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Date Posted: 08:17:38 03/19/07 Mon
Your post states some "telling" things:
tuesday is the day. i'm 19 and frightened. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and we just couldn't believe we were pregnant. as far as i know, i'm about 8 weeks. not only do i cry damn near everyday but i realized i will be going through the procedure by myself. my boyfriend won't be coming with me. i don't know what to do. i know i can't change my mind because i am in no position to raise a child. but everytime i rub my stomach i just think of what a blessing he or she could be. my parents will never no and neither will my siblings. i feel all alone. i guess i'm just posting this so can get some words of wisdom from women who have been through this already especially women my age. just any words of advice right now would be good.
I think there are some red flags here - and your concerns are valid - an abortion is really not a simple procedure that makes a problem just go away. If you had some time to read through the posts at
the post abortion healing board (http://www.voy.com/129741/) you will see how it has deeply affected the women that post there. I really think women should have pre-abortion counseling - and not just a 20 minute conversation about how "easy" it is.
If you start off with this many doubts, Wednesday is going to be even harder. You should NOT go through this alone - you NEED to tell your parents, or a close sibling or a friend. Your parents LOVE you and would NOT want to see you deal with this alone. Many women have unplanned pregnancies, and I think the stigma of it all has really lessened.
If you are not in the position to raise a child, there are plenty of good people on long waiting lists wanting to do that for you. It is a very selfless act of love to give your child to someone to raise (adoption). Not only that, but it can also be very healing for you - not destructive, as abortion is the majority of the time. And you are right in thinking this child is already a blessing Eliza - and will continue to be a blessing to many.
I'm sorry you're feeling alone - but that feeling will honestly only get worse if you go through with this. Please at least give yourself a little more time before going through with an abortion. Get some more advice and counseling - seek out other options and don't let anyone bully you into something your not ready for.
Hang in there - email me back if you want to. I'm pulling for you!