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Subject: So _soon Author: Hanna [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:06:19 09/09/07 Sun Mid July I had an abortion, at that time it was stressful, family issues, finance, university and work etc...added to that my b/f does not feel he can deal with an unplanned pregancy. the only support he can give is financial...what I needed most was the emotional support to deal with my family..family support was a major issued that i could not deal with (family that lives by the society..father is a preacher etc )..it would of been the first child out of wedlock, destory their perfect image in socity and i can go on and on After 8 weeks of my abortion (no one except my b/f and best friend have this knowledge)someone in my dept (floor at work) is pregnant and everyone is exciting and celebrating- all the time they are talking about the morning sickness, food etc I cannot deal with it, i am happy for her but this is reminding me of my initial excitment of being pregnant and wanting the child sooo much..I cannot deal with this and don't have anyone to turn ..I think i am starting to go into depression,crying everynight and getting emotional ..what can i do? relationship with b/f is in a mess, best friend said she be suppportive but she not so supportive [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: So _soon Author: Kris [Edit] Date Posted: 21:11:05 09/10/07 Mon Dear Hanna, I'm sorry for the pain you are going through. The reality is that you need to mourn the loss you have experienced. It was a loss, and any loss we have leaves a hole in our lives. It's important to give yourself permission to feel sad, and to grieve, but it's also very important that you move on and don't get stuck in that grief. There are many avenues to working through the pain and sorrow and one thing you may find helpful is more conversation about the experience. There's another site that has more activity: http://www.safehavenministries.com/ You may also want to consider a personal journal. Writing down your feelings and thoughts on the matter and working through it that way can be helpful. There are also FREE post-abortion counseling services at most Crisis Pregnancy Centers - you can find one near you at this site: http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html It's probably hard for your b/f and your friend to truly understand the emotions you are feeling. I'm sure they care and want to help, but they just don't know how. I'm glad you posted, please look at the sites I've mentioned here and keep working on finding that peace you need to make it through all this. Also remember, no one is perfect, never will be - only Jesus was - and so we all stand before Him in need of forgiveness and healing. He still loves you Hanna. Kris