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Subject: Re: How to move forward. Have so much resentment

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Kris

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Date Posted: 10:01:50 05/10/08 Sat
In reply to: Kris 's message, "How to move forward. Have so much resentment" on 00:08:43 05/05/08 Mon

Dear Kris,

It would be important for you to take care of YOURSELF at this point. You need to be kind and caring and loving to YOU, not to your bf. I think it's critical that we pay attention to our own needs, getting healthy, mentally, physically and spiritually, in order to even begin healthy relationships. I'm not meaning this in a selfish, self-seeking way kind of thing. I mean that You need to find Your peace and your healing and sometimes keeping the past around us doesn't allow for that.

Have you looked into the post-abortion counseling? It's super important for you at this point. At a minimum, it would be good to journal your thoughts and feelings and work through your conflicting emotions that way. It's better to have a sounding board and a voice of reason though (say, through a counselor).

I'm not saying walk away from a man you think you love. I'm just saying, it's important for you to love yourself first, then you can better love the people around you. A time away from an intense relationship can sometimes clear things up about how your really feeling.

Hang in there,

Kris

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Kris
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Date Posted: 09:23:49 05/21/08 Wed

Well I left him last week. And he said that he cant handle all my feelings and needs. He cant make me happy and we dont want the same things in a relationship. He said his main priority right now is his job his feelings and his needs. Thn he wrote to me that if I ever want to have sex WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED just straight up sex to call him... HOW CAN HE SAY THAT TO ME??? I thought he loved me. That really hurt bad.