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Subject: I feel as though i want to give up my life


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elizabeth (despair)
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Date Posted: 19:47:46 01/19/08 Sat

Help me. I feel as though i can not go on. I was in a relationship with a man and everyone has heared the story. I was in love with a liar and false promises.
I am a single mother already and didn't want to go through that again. I didn't know what to do. I lost my job. The pregnancy made me so sick unlike my first.
I ended up in the emergency room for deydration due to excessive vomiting. I was abandoned again with another child on the way. I freaked and got scared.
But now i feel it. My babies life is gone. I felt the babies soul inside me. I took it away. I am a horriable monster. I felt like a hurt animal running around with out any escape. I was escaping a baby. A life. I am ruined. Please help me. I want to be a good mom to my first but all i see when i look at my son is the unborn child i gave up. I let go. I'm alone again. I'm unemployed. what am i doing..

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[> Subject: Re: I feel as though i want to give up my life


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 13:08:30 01/20/08 Sun

Dear Elizabeth,

You ask, "what am I doing?" - You are mourning. Mourning is a painful but necessary process after a loss. Not only have you lost a relationship that was important to you, you have lost your job, and a child (it doesn't matter how that came about). Any single one of those is difficult enough, but all at once is overwhelming, of course!

It's critical that you do NOT get stuck in this mournful state, but that you find your way through it - in a healthy way. It would be a great time for you to start journaling your emotions - let them flow and get them out.

It would also be of benefit to find a post-abortion group - many pregnancy centers offer FREE post abortion couseling. I urge you to look one up near you and call them and GO -

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

You can also call:

1-800-395-HELP

There are web sites for post abortion help - here's a link to a page with many options on it:

http://www.inourmidst.com./abortion_links.htm

www.safehavenministries.com is also a great resource.

http://www.actsweb.org/articles/article.php?i=71&d=1&c=4&p=1

Grieving a loss is critical to recovery - allowing yourself to grieve in a healthy way is so important - not only for you, but also for the son you have with you now. For his sake, don't just give up - hang tough - fight for your happiness and health.

Hugs,
Kris

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[> Subject: Re: I feel as though i want to give up my life


Author:
Me
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Date Posted: 13:19:10 01/28/08 Mon

I know you feel terrible, I felt the same way last year afer mine. I felt as if I was beneath human. I will tell you I cried for a while and it did get better. I have a 7yr old so I concentrated on making things better for his sake being that he didn't understand. Think about your older child and their future. It's ok to get it out of your system while getting back to being you... an "incredible mom". To move on with my 7yr old, I kept telling myself, if I don't get my life back especially for my son then it was all for nothing. Hope this helps. I'll keep you in my prayers.

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