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Date Posted: 10:26:39 08/23/05 Tue
Yes, relationships can make it after traumatic events - but you need to "deal" with that trauma in healthy ways. Not talking about it or "stuffing" the emotions will only cause problems down the road. Both you and your boyfriend are hurting from the abortion and you need to be able to talk about it. If someone goes around acting like something never happened, that is a defense mechanism meant to protect themselves - try to understand that. Sure it makes you mad, but he can't face what he's feeling about the whole thing and that's very typical for a guy.
I would like to suggest you go to some post abortion counseling - usually a Crisis Pregnancy Center in your area will offer FREE sessions - please look up one in your area - you can use this link:
or look in your phone book under Abortion Alternatives
You can also visit this site:
They are wonderful and have lots of message boards for women who have had abortions.
The sad fact is that the majority of relationships are destroyed after an abortion, but there is hope! The guilt, hurt and anger are just too much to deal with. That is something Pro-Choice advocates will never admit to, but it's true. I am sorry you are finding out the hard way. I hope the little bit of info. I've offered helps.