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Date Posted: 11:27:18 09/01/05 Thu
I've just read your message, and would very much like to help you to understand your wife's feelings. My fiance' and I are now married. The most important thing for me is his willingness to listen. What your wife feels now is not a hatred for you, this is my belief. She feels angry about the decision that you made together, and she feels sad, and guilty.
Are the overwhelming feelings of sadness a constant thing? For me there is always an underlying tone of sadness that was not there before my abortion. Today is especially sad for me as it was one year ago today when I had my abortion.
Draw close to your wife when you sense she needs it. Give her space when she needs that as well. Her feelings,and needs will fluctuate. Mostly, your willingness to listen will be beneficial in her healing.
I would like to say more, but do not have the time right now, as I need to go to work. God bless you, Dean.