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Subject: MEDICAL ABORTION..


Author:
rochelle
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Date Posted: 16:27:05 06/25/06 Sun
 just finished my last 4 pills with the medical abortion.. the pain in my stomach is unimaginable. i'm so sad that i had to do this to my child.. i'm really sad.. and i have no one to turn to. the only one that knows is my boyfriend.. he's been there .. but i feel so alone and sad.. and mostly guilty. it was the right decision i know that because i can't provide for a baby at this point in my life and i wouldn't want it to suffer at all.. i just hope that it knew that i loved it..
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[> Subject: Re: MEDICAL ABORTION..


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 08:12:33 06/26/06 Mon
Dear Rochelle,

Please keep this info. -

www.optionline.org

You can look up a pregnancy center near you there for post abortion counseling. They offer FREE counseling sessions for post abortive women and they are wonderful.

I'm sorry you're sad - if you read through the posts here, you will see that abortion affects most women in the same way. I happen to believe it affects all women in the same way, some just stay in denial for longer periods of time and act out their depression in other ways and blame other circumstances.

In time, I hope you can come to terms with your abortion and deal with it all. It's not easy, I have many friends that have been hurt by it and they all have suffered emotionally from it. There are ways to get through it, and you're doing the right thing by starting some dialogue about it.

You can also visit:

http://www.safehavenministries.com/


Hang in there!

Kris

[> Subject: Re: MEDICAL ABORTION..


Author:
Christy
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Date Posted: 22:29:38 06/27/06 Tue
Hi Rochelle,

I'm sorry for what you're experiencing, the emotional and even physical part.
I myself was going to have a medical abortion with pills, but I was convinced by the staff at the clinic to just have a surgical one it was "faster". I'd feel just as awful either way for what I've done.
I do understand.
I told noone about my abortion either. Not even my best friends.
I eventually mentioned I was pregant, but lied and said I had a miscarriage 'cause I was ashamed and shared of being judged. I was and still is hard to live hiding or holding in the pain and guilt of having an abortion.
The only person who knew of the abortion was my boyfriend.
I became and still am so needy of him. But I still feel and felt alone. and beyond sad.
I beleived I made the choice or decision to have an abortion for the same reasons. I was not ready or able to provide, I had nothing to offer a baby, nothing but love.
but love won't pay off my car, or rent, or hopsitl bills, or buy diapers, or milk. so I felt I made a better choice, for me and my boyfriend (who wasn't ready and would've resented us I believed) and my baby that I couildn't offer what it desereved. So I do understand.
and if you are truelly sorry, I know your baby will forgive you. and God (not sure how you feel about God, but it's what I believe) and you will take time to heal and forgive yourself.
I know you loved your baby, as I loved my baby too.
You will be okay.
If you need a friend, you can email me
chuckabees625@sbcglobal.net
[> Subject: Re: MEDICAL ABORTION..


Author:
Christy
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Date Posted: 23:27:51 06/27/06 Tue
I'm sorry for what you're experiencing, the emotional and even physical part.
I myself was going to have a medical abortion with pills, but I was convinced by the staff at the clinic to just have a surgical one it was "faster". I'd feel just as awful either way for what I've done.
I do understand.
I told noone about my abortion either. Not even my best friends.
I eventually mentioned I was pregant, but lied and said I had a miscarriage 'cause I was ashamed and shared of being judged. I was and still is hard to live hiding or holding in the pain and guilt of having an abortion.
The only person who knew of the abortion was my boyfriend.
I became and still am so needy of him. But I still feel and felt alone. and beyond sad.
I beleived I made the choice or decision to have an abortion for the same reasons. I was not ready or able to provide, I had nothing to offer a baby, nothing but love.
but love won't pay off my car, or rent, or hopsitl bills, or buy diapers, or milk. so I felt I made a better choice, for me and my boyfriend (who wasn't ready and would've resented us I believed) and my baby that I couildn't offer what it desereved. So I do understand.
and if you are truelly sorry, I know your baby will forgive you. and God (not sure how you feel about God, but it's what I believe) and you will take time to heal and forgive yourself.
I know you loved your baby, as I loved my baby too.
You will be okay.
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