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Subject: Re: does it get better?

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Date Posted: 11:02:25 04/09/05 Sat
In reply to: Pamela 's message, "does it get better?" on 02:22:10 04/09/05 Sat


Please start there and look up a local mental health clinic for more help. Cutting is a cry for help - and you need to find a way to deal with your pain that is not self-destructive. I'm so sorry you are hurting so much.


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Date Posted: 23:18:19 04/18/05 Mon

Precious child, you are not alone in your suffering. If you were my granddaughter, I could wrap my arms around you and listen to your story and comfort you.

This being a communication of spirit and pixels on a screen, I can best serve you by praying for you and by reminding you that you are entitled to your grief and that you are a loved and cherished child of God.

Most of our culture tells us that abortion is nothing - we're merely disposing of an inconvenience, a blob of cells. We believe it.

Nothing prepares us for what happens to us after an abortion, when we come face to face with our loss, our guilt, our grief and the responsibility for our action. Of course, we're knocked off our feet when this dizzying, sickening turmoil of emotions hits us. And usually, there is no one around to help us.

Little in our culture acknowledges this grief. You have lost a baby and you have every right to mourn this loss.

Many of us feel your hurt - you no longer need to cut yourself on the outside for us to know that you are tortured, inside.

I pray that you will find the path of forgiveness for yourself and the mercy of God who loves you and mourns your separation from Him. Your pain cries out to Him all your longing and the anguish of your feeling of separation.

If you have asked God's forgiveness, it is given. Trust in it. Know that it is there. Ask God to use your penitence to bring you back to Him and to enable you to feel this mercy.

If you have asked your child's forgiveness, it is given. You may wonder about your child at certain times of the year every year for the rest of your life, but it can get better. The grief will ease.

Your child does not want you to hurt this way. God does not want you to hurt this way.

I pray that somehow these pixels on the screen serve to comfort your sorrow and quiet your torment.

Please post back - I will watch for you.


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Date Posted: 11:46:07 04/25/05 Mon

I thank you so much for the message you gave to me and the time you took out of your day to do it. Your words brought tears to my eyes right away, but knowing that somebody actually understands how I feel and why I feel this way comforted me in a way that nobody around me has been able to. Once again, I want to thank you. You will never know how much I appreciate coming back to this site and seeing a message like that awaiting me.
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Date Posted: 22:47:12 04/30/05 Sat

My dear, there are millions who understand your pain.

"Millions" is a big number - incomprehensible, isn't it? But, to make it easier to relate to, look around you as you walk down the street.

Nearly every woman you see has or will at some point in their lives reach a point of questioning - "I'm pregnant, and I don't know what to do about it, I don't know how I can cope with it, I don't know how I can afford to raise a child, I don't know how I will manage." Many will at least consider abortion and of those, many will believe that it is their best or only option.

What is it - one in five women who will have an abortion in their lifetime? I'm not good at statistics - I only mention it so that as you look around in a crowd, you will realize that you are not alone.

Thank God for sites like this, that allow women to tell of their losses, weep for their children and learn that their cross is not theirs alone to bear in shamed silence or a feigned nonchalance that covers the wounds in their souls.

Every story here is a testament to the fact that abortion is not "nothing." I heard someone say that in order to put the sword into her child's heart, a mother first must put the sword through her own. Oh, God, how true!

Thank you, God, for every woman who tells her story - how that "blob of cells" or "bit of tissue" was indeed a BABY to her and how she grieves for it.

Thank God for you! You will never know how many women you have blessed with your truth.

I will continue to pray for you - that your heart is softened in your grief, that you find the peace that Jesus wants for you. His mercy is endless, infinite, all-encompassing - it's so much bigger than any human transgression could *ever* be - and it's waiting for you.

Please check back whenever you feel like it. I will watch for you.


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