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Subject: Abortion


Author:
Annmarie
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Date Posted: 01:34:18 07/20/05 Wed

Hi there. I too had an abortion 2 weeks ago.I was 9 weeks pregnant.I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and things are great.I was on the contraceptive pill when got pregnant so it was a shock but apparently an upset tummy suppressed the pill.I was quite afraid but excited when i found out.I told my boyfriend a couple of nights later thinking he would go mad but he was great.He said it wasnt my fault.A part of me thought he was going to say he wanted it but he didnt. He calmly said he thought an abortion would be best as we were too young (we are both 23 working fulltime), he said he wasnt ready to be a dad, he works away during the week and said he couldnt stand being a weekend dad.Kids should have both parents around all the time he said and a stable home.(we both rent).Of course there was always his plans to go to Australia in couple years time that a baby wouldnt fit into. I didnt particularly get asked if i wanted to keep the baby,i was told it wouldnt be good idea to be single mum,too difficult and all that. I agonised over the decision for weeks But everytime I looked at my boyfriend i couldnt tell him i wanted to keep it. I love him dearly and didnt want to lose him. He came with me to the clinic and was so supportive and caring. I shook uncontrollably all the time i was there. I still wasnt sure. When i had the scan and caught glimpse of the picture i nearly died. It happened all too quickly and before i knew where i was it was all over. Its now been 2 weeks and the cramping and bleeding have just gone, but i feel so empty and low. i keep bursting into tears. Everytime i see a baby i want to cry, everytime i see a pregnant woman i want to cry. The guilt i feel is unreal. The sadness i feel at the loss of my baby is awful. I keep thinking of the little thing been taken out of my body and cant believe i did it. My boyfriend wont talk about it, he says i should just get on with life now and forget about it. I wish i could. Im not eating and all i want to do is sleep. Everything is an effort. My parents knew about the pregnancy and they too feel the abortion was right for us. So there really isnt anyone i can talk to. Life is so different now. I realise how much i wanted that little baby and i will never forgive myself for what i did. I should have listened to my heart. Im dying inside every day....

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Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 11:15:19 07/23/05 Sat

Hi Annemarie. hope you are doing ok today. I just wanted to let you know and any others that I will be glad to send you some post abortion healing literature. I hope someone who has experienced what you have, will respond and tell you their story and offer encouragement in Jesus Christ.
Diane Cheryl
CHERYL51@aol.com
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Author:
Mary
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Date Posted: 15:46:30 11/23/05 Wed

Annmarie,
I too had an abortion that I thought at the time I was doing the right thing. Now that the time has come when the baby would be born, I am a mess. Everyday, all day, all I think about is going back to that clinic and walking out!!! I cry a lot and my husband, who was the father, regrets our decision too. We have been trying to get pregnant again, but we have not been successful. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here. I too am dying inside everyday..



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