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Subject: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 09:15:53 08/16/05 Tue

Three weeks ago i was at a party and my drink got spiked with GHD, i didint know what had happened to me but knew i had woke up with no clothes on next to one of the lads, i had bruises all at the tops of my legs and pains down below, i asked what had happened and he just threatened me and said i agreeded to it so dont go to the police and that it werent him that spiked my drinks it was one of the other lads. I have today found out i am pregnant, i have wanted a baby for so long since i had an abortion 4 years ago, when i was just 16, but now i dont know what to do. I have not gone to the police or anything i have just been trying to get on with my life but i love this baby so much, but i have to see the lad every day as we live a few doors away from each other and i can not have him in my babies life and am scared what he would do if he did find out i was pregnant. i promised myself after my first abortion i would never do that again but now it has come to it i dont know what i should do.

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[> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 22:12:40 08/16/05 Tue

Dear Emma,

Do you have family or supportive friends you can go to? You need some support here. I also want to urge you to call a Rape Crisis hotline - you use some terms that make me think you may be in the UK (?) - I would hope they have similar services there if so. You should try to move away - maybe with family (?) - but you shouldn't have to see this man daily and worry about your safety. I'm so sorry for what you are going through - boy are you brave! I'm also impressed that you want this baby - many women wouldn't - but it is an innocent life and should not pay the price for it's fathers crime. Please email me anytime - and post again.

Kris


[> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 10:16:52 08/17/05 Wed

Hi Emma.. Please email me. I would like to talk to you more than I can on here. My email address is DCHERYL51@yahoo.com
Hope to hear from you soon.

[> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 10:01:34 08/24/05 Wed

Hey Emma, email me or post here and let us know if anything else has happened with you. hoping to hear from you.
Diane Cheryl
[> [> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 10:53:36 08/25/05 Thu

Hello, Well i am still pregnant but still undecided what to do. I am still trying to come to terms with the abortion i had 4 years ago it is so hard, i want this baby, but i dont want the reminder of that night. My friends and family are being really supportive. I did think about what Kris said anout moving away and staying with family, but i dont want to leave the family i have here. I know if i do keep my baby i will have to move away as i see him every day and he can not be part of my babies life. I am still so confused. He attacked me the other day because someone had mentioned the rape to him, i dont even know how they had found out. Baby is ok tho. so i would hate to think what he would do if he found out i was carrying his baby, but i really dont think i can go through all the heart ache i have been through in the last 4 years again.

Emma
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Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 20:53:57 08/26/05 Fri

Dear Emma.. Thanks for your latest post and I just saw it right now. Please email me so we can talk more. Or here is another forum you could join where you will get a lot of advice.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
[> [> [> [> Subject: Emma, please let us know!


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 22:32:42 09/13/05 Tue

Hi Emma.. We would like to know how you are doing. Please post here or email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com
Thanks.
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Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 03:45:33 09/21/05 Wed

Hi Sorry i have not emailed i use my friends computor so dont have an email address of my own. I have decided i am going to keep my baby, i am still grieving for the baby i got rid of 4 years ago. I am staying where i am for now i will deal with the Father if/when he finds out its his. There is nothing he could do to hurt me that would be any where near the pain and emptiness i would feel without my baby.

Thanks you for your help and support.

Emma xx

[> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 20:23:33 09/17/05 Sat

Hi , sorry ive not emailed, i use my friedns computor so dont have an email address myself. I have decided i am keeping my baby. I want to thank you for your help and support. I'm not sure if i am staying where i live or moving yet that i am undecided about i will deal with that if/when he finds out. But i know i can not have another abortion, that pain would hurt me mor than he ever could.

thanks
Emma
[> [> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 17:09:43 09/21/05 Wed

Hi

Sorry my message came through twice i sent one a few days ago and thought there must of been an error so i sent it again, but they have both come through now

Emma
[> [> [> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 22:12:11 10/20/05 Thu

Hi Emma,
please post again here or email me and let me know how you are. would like to keep in touch.
Diane Cheryl
DCHERYL51@yahoo.com
[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Should i keep my baby


Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 07:38:56 11/16/05 Wed

my babies gone, it was punishment for having an abortion years ago, they taken my baby
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Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 20:39:22 01/01/06 Sun

Hi Emma.. So what happened? Let us know. Is there anything to be done?
Love,
Diane Cheryl
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Author:
Emma
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Date Posted: 04:34:06 01/10/06 Tue

Nothing can be done now, i had a miscarriage after getting into a fight with the father, but guess thats my own fault because deep down even tho i wanted my baby i didnt want his baby. It has gave me the push i needed tho to go to the police about the rape tho and i am just waiting for the court date now.

Emma


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