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Subject: Re: I can't do this


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 10:59:55 09/07/05 Wed
In reply to: Candace 's message, "I can't do this" on 00:32:41 09/05/05 Mon

Dear Candace,

I'm so glad you found this site and could post your feelings here. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I know you are hurting, and it's valid to feel the way you do. You have lost a relationship and more - and that is painful. I would suggest you get a locking journal that you can write down your feelings in - many times it helps to write day to day (you don't have to write daily) - but getting those emotions out can really help. It doesn't even have to make sense or be grammatically correct -

I also want to encourage you to reach out more - there are Pregnancy Centers that offer FREE and CONFIDENTIAL Post-abortion counseling - look up one near you at this site:

http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp

There is another site that is for women who have had abortions and it's really good also:

http://www.safehavenministries.com/

Please plese visit there! They offer more online support if you're not able to go to a center.

You are NOT worthless - you are precious and you need to take heart, seek some support - and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs,

Kris

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[> Subject: Re: I can't do this


Author:
Ronnie
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Date Posted: 17:52:19 10/02/05 Sun

My heart and prayers go with you. While I have always been anti-abortion, I am sad to say I lost my first grandchild in that manner. When I was told, I cried. What could I say? I started a journal, The kind that has blank unlined pages. The first couple of pages were delirious. They are pictures of aborted babies. I labeled my journal "My very first grandchild". I wrote when I needed to verbally express the pain, the sadness, even the delirium. Under one of the photo's I wrote "just a little glue and a few popsickle sticks, and we will have you back together in no time". I cut photo's out of magazines and put them in the journal, one year old's, two year olds, holiday pictures, the whole gambit. Is this obsessive behavior? No, it is healing. On her actual birthdate, I cut out pictures of things I would have bought her. I write of the fun we would have together. I love her. I always will. I regret that I will never have the opportunity to hear her voice, see her run and play, but I am healing. I have been blessed with 3 other grandchildren since. I have included them in the journal. I draw pictures of all of us together on the porch swing, I never see her face, but her laughter surrounds me. I have forgiven all involved, but refuse to let her memory fade. Mistakes forgotten are mistakes which will be repeated. Please do journal. And don't feel like you have to hide it. It is a very major part of who you are, and where you are going from here.
You are a gift of God, God didn't make junk. Asking for his forgiveness, and the strength to forgive yourself, will help you move forward. Don't hesitate to reach out for help. In God we trust. Love, Ronnie



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