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Subject: Re: Thinking Twice

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Date Posted: 08:59:41 11/26/05 Sat
In reply to: Mary 's message, "Thinking Twice" on 14:42:39 11/23/05 Wed

Dear Mary,

No! You are NOT the only one. Your feelings are exactly what other post-abortion women go through. The only problem is, no one will really "talk" about it. More and more though, women are speking up and talking about the post abortion trauma they experience.

There are some Care Net centers that offer free post abortion cousneling - you can look one up at this site and see if there's one in your area:


You can also visit this web site:


There are many message boards there for women who have had abortions.

I also think that there are mental triggers we have as far as conception goes. You have regrets about your abrotion and telling yourself you don't deserve to be a mother now. Those things alone will prevent conception. Of course, unfortunately, there may also be physical causes for the problem. Abortion can leave scarring that makes conception difficult or impossible. However, don't get all worried about that just yet. Trying to conceive for only one month does not mean you will never get pregnant again.

I do urge you to get some post-abortion counseling. You need to work through forgiving yourself and your husband. You also need to mourn for your loss and work through those feelings. Being whole and healed from this is critical before you have another child.

I know other post abortive women that fear they will loose future children as punishment for thier past abortion and this places a cloud over the entire family for life. These things have to be dealt with first in order to have a healthy home life.

Above all, understand that God still loves you - He will forgive you and your husband - it's just for the asking. He sill heal you emotionally and physically - again, just ask Him.


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Date Posted: 19:23:10 01/06/06 Fri

Hon, I don't think you are being punished. However you might want to get checked out. Sometimes scare tissue can form and that can prevent you from getting pregnant.
my heart goes out to you. Hope things work out for the better for you


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