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Subject: Re: Sister had an Abortion, but Im hurting aswell

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Date Posted: 09:47:37 12/16/05 Fri
In reply to: shelly 's message, "Sister had an Abortion, but Im hurting aswell" on 12:40:46 12/15/05 Thu

Dear Shelly,

I want to direct you to:


There are many more message boards there, and I think you will find other folks there that have sat in the room during an abortion and can speak to the emotions they have also dealt with.

This board is just a little quiet and I have not had the experience you had.

I will say that your feelings are valid, and the hurt and pain and anger about it all are justified.

You are a good to be there for
your sister. She will snap out of that denial at some point and it will be devastating to her. She will need direction and help to deal with the denial, grief, guilt, anger, and depression that is awaiting her.

I do know many post-abortive women and ALL of them have dealt with the aftermath of an abortion. Some get hit by it right away and some go years in a state of denial letting it eat them alive inside. (You can also "google" post-abortion and find more about that)

You don't mention anything about God in your post, but I would like to say that God is the one you and your sister are going to have to learn to lean on to get through this. I would be more than willing to talk to you further about that, you can email me privately or post here again.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister.


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Date Posted: 02:32:21 12/19/05 Mon

Hi, Shelly,

My heart goes out to you. You have suffered a tremendous loss. Your sister didn't really want an abortion; she was forced into it. Sooner or later she will think about that. Chances are, her relationship with the father will break up, and then she will have nothing. If she had kept the baby, she would at least have her baby. I'm sorry someone didn't tell her that she can't save a relationship by having an abortion. Her boyfriend is a total jerk. He is scum as far as I am concerned. Nobody has a right to force a woman to have an abortion.

I pray that the Lord will comfort you both. It will be difficult when your sister faces what she has done. Several things can trigger her coming out of denial. The due date, the abortion date, seeing a picture of an unborn child somewhere, many different things can do this. I call it being blindsided. Please be there for her. She will need you. Try to reach out to her as the survivor. Her future may well be in your hands, because she could become self-destructive. If possible, find a crisis pregnancy agency in your area and try to get some counseling that will help you help her. Once she faces it, that will also be an important resource.



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