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Subject: Re: my girlfriend had an abortion

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Date Posted: 02:21:46 12/19/05 Mon
In reply to: joe 's message, "my girlfriend had an abortion" on 21:01:43 12/17/05 Sat


My heart goes out to you! I am sure you have plenty of company, but most men won't speak out. It is good that you are. We live in a country with cruel laws. The laws aren't your fault. Those laws stripped you of your right and duty to protect your children. What did you do wrong? Once the baby was conceived, in my opinion, nothing. The only mistake you made was having sex with the mother in the first place. Certainly it is not your fault that someone hogtied you and forbid you to protect your child.

I understand that you love her very much. This is an emotion, and in your case, I think you made a commitment to cherish her as well. Now I think you realize you have to ask some tough questions. This woman you love deliberately harmed your child, and it wasn't even "necessary". I don't know what is going on in her head. I don't know what makes a woman that determined to destroy her own child. This is a mentality that makes no sense to me. Among other things, I suspect you are thinking this isn't the woman you thought her to be. It has been an eye-opener. So what do you do? Do you break up with her?

For the outrage, I suggest that you sue the abortionist for wrongful death. You might also want to sue her, but that depends on what you decide to do. I am sure there are lawyers out there who would support you; such a case could accomplish much for other men. You probably won't get any money; most abortionists are judgment-proof. But this so-called "doctor" took advantage of your girlfriend. If he had done his job, he would have discouraged her. But he's in it for the money. He has prostituted himself and his profession.

There is a conspiracy to mislead women in this country. Abortion is dangerous, but they won't tell people. They don't try to obtain informed consent. They just try to close the sale. They have told us so. I don't know to what extent your girlfriend was misled.

If you decide to stay with her, there will probably come a time when she will have to deal with what she has done. That will be very difficult. There is help available.

Beyond that, I don't know what to tell you. Obviously you have to make a decision about what to do with your relationship.

I hope you will come back and let us work through this with you.

One more thing that may be very helpful. If at all possible, you should turn to God. In my experience the only people who heal completely are the people who do. Read the Psalms. I think there are Psalms that you will relate to, and they will comfort you.

Take care,


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