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Subject: Re: Young N Naive

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Date Posted: 15:58:14 01/04/06 Wed
In reply to: jennifer 's message, "Re: Young N Naive" on 18:26:33 01/03/06 Tue


I just want to ask you if you think you did the right thing, why did it hurt so much? Do you not think that you would have been at peace with your decision all along? Just something to think about.

One more thing: being able to be a good mother to a baby isn't about material blessings. It's about love. Our children would be better off if we didn't make life perfect for them. Making a perfect life usually produces spoiled children that nobody wants to be around. Human beings are a perverse species; we require a certain amount of challenge to thrive. Please think hard also about wanting to provide the perfect upbringing for a child. You will make mistakes (I made my share), and you don't want to put yourself in the position where you blame yourself for not doing a perfect job. Children have a mind of their own and they will do things you don't approve of. When that happens, don't blame yourself. It's their choice. Raise them the best you can, put ethical behavior and a solid spiritual grounding in first place. Give them what they really need, but not necessarily everything they want.

I am happy you are putting your life back together, but please be sure you do it the right way. If you do it by misleading yourself, then it will continue to haunt you, and you will still have to deal with it. Think deeply about why it hurt so much, and deal with those issues. Please.



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