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Subject: pain and lonliness...but mostly guilt

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Date Posted: 01:05:15 02/23/06 Thu

i had my first abortion last summer...i was going to have twins. After that abortion i was very traumatized and yet i became pregnant again less than 4 months later...I still can't believe i was pregnant...again i aborted this pregnancy early january 06. This second aborion was more of a blur....i don't want to make excuses but i made these decisions. all of them...and yet i still feel the pain and the hurt and the guilt. At night i cry myself to sleep. I'm seeing a counselor but i still feel so alone and it's a weird feeling but i miss them...I now have this feeling of wanting to be a mother so badly...i guess because of the loss. I feel so empty inside. I have asked for forgiveness from God...but the guilt is too great to feel forgiven..because i did it twice...i can't seem to forgive myself. My due date would have been in a couple of weeks for the twins...i'm finding it hard to deal with that. I need someone to talk to...so much going through my mind.

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[> Subject: Re: pain and lonliness...but mostly guilt

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Date Posted: 16:30:57 02/25/06 Sat

Dear Angelica,

This board tends to be a little quiet - I want to encourage you to do two things - look up a post-abortion support group in your area - one place to start looking for one is at this web site:


The other thing, is to check out:


They have active message boards there, and you will connect with other women going through the same things you are going through.

It's good you've asked forgiveness, now trust in that - God does forgive you - and He will help you to heal. This isn't something that is going to happen overnight, but it can and will happen. You need to grieve your loss, so let the emotions flow - but don't let them get out of control. Keep a journal (where you know it will be private) and get your feelings down on paper, that can help a lot.

I'm glad you posted here, and post again if you want to.

Hugs, Kris

[> Subject: Re: pain and lonliness...but mostly guilt

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Date Posted: 23:36:34 02/26/06 Sun


You have done everything you need to do to be forgiven except accept God's forgiveness! That's tough, but you can experience healing. God assures you that if you ask for forgiveness and believe in Jesus, you will receive it.

Remember Paul? He had been the murderer of Christians. I suspect he had murdered quite a few. But God forgave him and made him into an Apostle. And if God can and will do that for Paul, He can and will do it for you.

Please visit your local crisis pregnancy agency. They often have counseling available for people in your position. I don't know how well your counseling is working out, but if your counselor isn't specifically trained in counseling abortion experienced women, it will be helpful for you to receive counseling from someone who is. If you are already visiting a counselor with this training, keep it up! It is important to go to someone who can give you a hug when you need it. Also, visiting web sites that have discussion boards is very helpful. Kris has a good idea.

Also, it may help if you make a memorial to your children, or plant a tree or something of that nature. You can have memorial pages on the internet. You can also name your children. All of this is helpful to some people.

We will be praying for you.


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