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] Date Posted:08:49:40 06/20/06 Tue In reply to:
Kate
's message, "Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight!" on 12:56:43 05/05/04 Wed
>I really feel for you. It must be so hard at you're
>age when you finally think all youre horemones arte
>sorting themselves out and then you get put into a
>world of confusion about your sexuality. I think that
>the thing is to remember that you are young and you've
>got years and years to find out more about yourself.
>You're close relationship with you're friend sounds
>really lovely and i can see why you dont want to
>jepardise that. In my experience as a straight woman,
>i still have thought about other women but for now i'm
>happy just to go with the flow. I tend to have close
>relationships with many male and female friends who i
>have thought about kissing but i feel like that can
>sometimes just be due to the fact that i really do
>love these people. There are many different forms of
>love and sometimes when we are lonely and don't have
>close contact with men it is easy to want to show
>affection to a really close friend and probably
>someone who knows you inside out and loves you for who
>you are. The thing you need to do though is to really
>look inside yourself and ask yourself if a sexual
>relationship with a female is what you want or whether
>youre just looking for an ideal relationship with
>someone you really care about already. I might be
>babbling a bit but i just think that you might be
>feeling lonely and have seen this attachment to you're
>friend as more than just a friendship. All in all just
>wait and see, if you are a lesbien it wont hurt anyone
>to you act on it now or later. I dont think that this
>is a good idea mentioning this to you're friend until
>you are totally sure about what you really want. I
>once told a really good mate that i liked him and
>things have never been the same since so just tread
>carefully.
>
>Hope this helps.
>
>>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone
>>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally
>>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female,
>>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted
>>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to
>>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's
>>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is
>>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close
>>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one
>>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with
>>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time
>>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think
>>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I
>>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes
>>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she
>>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im
>>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to
>>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do
>>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she
>>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk
>>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain
>>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that
>>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around
>>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying
>>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i
>>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i
>>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of
>>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when
>>the subject is brought up when we are with other
>>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted
>>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i
>>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if
>>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont
>>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that
>>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the
>>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It
>>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont
>>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about
>>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me
>>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont
>>judge harshly.
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Date Posted:02:40:01 07/04/06 Tue
Got the same problem. I have a good friend from work that I want to be very close spiritually, emotionally, and physically with, and I'm wrestling with these emotions right now. I am married to a wonderful man, and he doesn't mind my bisexual leanings much as long as I don't leave him for a woman. The woman I'm interested in is straight, young, and a virgin. I can't help but think that maybe I can experiment with her to see what may come of this. I have very strong feelings for her and find myself becoming more and more attracted to her on every level. My problem is that when another co-worker and I talk about gay people and gay sex, she says "EWW!" and "Nasty!" My other friend tells her not to knock it until she tries it, but I don't see her changing her mind soon. I really want to be able to love on her the same way that I've been able to love on my husband, but don't think it will happen. It's maddening...
