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Subject: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Tiger [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 09:18:54 01/18/04 Sun I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time together, and everytime shes talking to me i think about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do know that she would freak out if i told her this, she would walk away. shes the type who would just walk away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that its getting to be really hard to be with her , around her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i hide things from her, that im not an open book, i laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when the subject is brought up when we are with other friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont judge harshly. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: alwan [Edit] Date Posted: 06:13:09 02/24/04 Tue >I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >the subject is brought up when we are with other >friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: alwan [Edit] Date Posted: 06:16:56 02/24/04 Tue >>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Joseph [Edit] Date Posted: 12:11:14 05/26/04 Wed >>>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i >personally >>>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing >is >>>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me >shes >>>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i >do >>>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause >i >>>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or >if >>>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean >the >>>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin >me >>>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>>judge harshly. RE: i luv u to death cuz im in the same situation. i have a frend who makes me feel the way ur frend makes u feel ... and the feeling SUCKS. :( [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: same here [Edit] Date Posted: 19:30:02 11/05/04 Fri OMG ...im so going through the same thing right now...and i dont know what to do either...fuck'n sucks...so maybe we really aren't in love if its that common...i mean im so completely attracted to guys and my friend would be the only same sex attraction i have...but i know ur pain...i wish it would all just go away [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: AA [Edit] Date Posted: 14:27:02 12/07/05 Wed Dont wry i undastnd wut ur gOiin thru bcuz i feel da same way about mah best friend i cant do nothing bou iit cuz i feel lyk if i do tell her i will lose her i totally understand where u cumin from bcuz dat is da onli grl i lyk i no im not gay but shes just different isz weird...Shes sum1 i can call up n tell her nething n everything i wouldnt wan lose her i mean whn i read ur subject u sound just mii its unbelievable i think da way u do towards ma best friend is funnie how u think just lyk mii dasz y i decided to just write you!! i hPe wut u wantd works out fo u im gueszinn dont wry i personally think whn u wan sumthing alot ull get iit..Jus wait fo dah day ur just move on how eva u feel <3 [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: K.H. [Edit] Date Posted: 23:40:31 05/26/06 Fri Hey, I know what you guys are goin through. But see I'm different. I am bi. So I pro. can help you guys along. Listen I had friends that said the same things. Saying they hated them and everything til one day one of my best friends told me she was and she was mostly the one that talked about hating them. But now I like my best friend and she's bi and she don't know I like her, but the thing is she told me she likes me, but there's only one problem, she's with someone else. But just keep remembering this.....YOU CAN'T HELP WHO YOU LIKE OR WHO YOU ARE. IF THEY'RE YOUR TRUE FRIENDS THEY SHOULDN'T CARE WHO YOU ARE JUST AS LONG AS THEY'RE STILL YOUR FRIENDS. IF THEY DON'T EXEPT YOU YOU REALLY ARE THEY'RE NOT YOUR TRUE FRIENDS! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Kirsten [Edit] Date Posted: 19:52:17 08/08/06 Tue I definately know how you feel because I'm going through the same thing now and did two years ago. She found out to years ago and it totally ruined our friendship for a yearm but now we talk all the time. I am definately straight and enjoy being with guys, but its only my best friends that attract me.>Hey, I know what you guys are goin through. But see >I'm different. I am bi. So I pro. can help you guys >along. Listen I had friends that said the same things. >Saying they hated them and everything til one day one >of my best friends told me she was and she was mostly >the one that talked about hating them. But now I like >my best friend and she's bi and she don't know I like >her, but the thing is she told me she likes me, but >there's only one problem, she's with someone else. But >just keep remembering this.....YOU CAN'T HELP WHO YOU >LIKE OR WHO YOU ARE. IF THEY'RE YOUR TRUE FRIENDS THEY >SHOULDN'T CARE WHO YOU ARE JUST AS LONG AS THEY'RE >STILL YOUR FRIENDS. IF THEY DON'T EXEPT YOU YOU REALLY >ARE THEY'RE NOT YOUR TRUE FRIENDS! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: harmony tarrant (confused and depressed) [Edit] Date Posted: 10:22:36 01/03/08 Thu I am 14 yrs old and i feel the VERY SAME WAY!!!! i have a best friend, shes a girl, and im a girl. she JUST got her 1st boyfriend. and at first, i was happy for her, even tho i loved her. and now, it feels like my heart got ripped out! even tho we know eachother for sevral months, were very close, and i DO NOT want to lose her. somtimes i think i will, and cry the night instead of sleep. she means SO much to me, shes given me a LOT. evrey time i think about her kissing on the boy, i cry. i even have these dreams, that me and my best friend would make out, and touch. i know shed think im deskusting and crazy, if i told her this, bcause my brother calls us lesbians, since we hug, {in a friendly matter} i know shed freak, and im afraid id lose her. yet, at the same time, i love boys too, iv had a total of 7 boyfriends in my lifetime. iv NEVER felt like this w another girl, and i REALLY want to tell her, but im afraid ill lose her. but i feel guilty that i dont tell her, since we tell eachother evrything. and i tell her i trust her 100%, and she says the same thing. and now that she has a boyfriend, all i want to do now is tell somone, how i feel, and cry on their sholder. i want to kiss somone, touch somone, to take away the pain and confution...PLEASE HELP SOMONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: a friend [Edit] Date Posted: 10:01:41 09/06/04 Mon This is from experience...and it's safe to say...generally if a person displays feelings of disgust, anger and just totally expresses that they just don't understand why or how anyone could stand to be with a person of the same sex IS USUALLY because they are having an identity crisis themselves...and it's the only way they can deal with it... >>>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i >personally >>>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing >is >>>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me >shes >>>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i >do >>>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause >i >>>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or >if >>>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean >the >>>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin >me >>>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>>judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Blue [Edit] Date Posted: 21:06:47 09/08/06 Fri Tell her .... If you tell her and you guys do not stay friends maybe you werent as close as you thought you were.... Me and my best friend just went through the same thing this summer... I told her and we did not hook up or anything but we still hang out 24/7 like we did before...things are a little diffrent when it comes to like gettin dressed in front of each other but you gotta expect some things to change [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: germany girl [Edit] Date Posted: 02:03:14 09/25/06 Mon Hey hi... What did you do? its 2years ago... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: l [Edit] Date Posted: 16:16:13 05/02/04 Sun >>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Kay Bug [Edit] Date Posted: 16:50:20 02/27/06 Mon Hey! i was looking for answers about my life when i saw that you was going through the same thing i am. I am straight but i am in love with my best friend too. but i'm only 15 so.me and her are like sister's we are always hugging and people are starting to think that is wierd. See but if she ever knew i loved her; she would never talk to me b/c she has asked me if i was gay alot of times and i can tell her no cause i aint but i am so in love with her that it drives me insane. I tell her i love her and she tells me she loves me too and that suckes even more cause if she ever knew how much i cared about her. And listen at this one time when we were drinking i stayed the night with her and she was like all over me and saying she loved me and all of this stuff then the next day she acted like she didnt remember.i dont know if that was true but the funny thing is i am friends with her boy friend at the time and i was talking to him on the phone and then she kissed me and thats how this all started.her boyfriend knew it happened and at the time i had a boyfriend.lol then three days later she told me her life was better without me and then me and her boyfriend told her what happened. We stoped being friends for like 2 weeks but i would still text her. I couldnt even eat and i would cry all night. See she tells me she hates gay people but she has alot of friends that are gay and i dont get exactly what is going on with them. Well now we are best friends again. I know if i tell her i really love her that she wont be my friend cuz she said if i was gay she wouldnt be my friend. She gives me so many reasons to think she loves me but i think she is afraid so she hides it. I think even if she loves me that she wouldnt be with me b/c of her family. I am trying so hard to just hold on to our friendship. i mean i knew i was in love with her from the first time i saw her and it freaked me out at first. I am hoping that these feelings will go away but now i know they aint going to so i will hide them from her just so i can be friends with her. i think you should tell her i mean its better than living with it all the time. When i am out of school i will probly tell her the truth. I think she already knows and just dont want to believe it. Now we are both single so and Josh her x boyfriend now is trying to ruin our friendship she broke up with him cuz he would lie to everyone and even told her parents i was gay and they hated me. Thats half the reason she broke up with him. She told me after she broke up with him that she told her family that she would rather have me...as a friend.then to have him as a boyfriend. but what i dont get is its like they are still dating cuz they are always with eachother and fighting, but i am with her most of the time she says he invited himself to hang out with her but i cant ever get time alone with her anymore and she doesnt talk about me spending the night with her again cuz of what happened the last time, i dont think she trusts me. well i guess you are tired of hearing my story but i would like it if you would send me an e-mail so we can help eachother figure out what to do [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: hidden filings [Edit] Date Posted: 11:15:30 08/12/06 Sat SAME CASE..GUYS! HELP ME.. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Bianca [Edit] Date Posted: 00:59:07 09/07/05 Wed It's normal when you're a teenage girl, even if you're straight, for you to develop crushes and feel attracted to other girls. Most often people you feel close with, ie Best Friends, because you just think that they're amazing and you care so much about them. Totally normal. Don't worry. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Mandie [Edit] Date Posted: 12:54:33 11/12/05 Sat i feel the same way about my best friend. we've been friends since we were little and we tell each other EVERYTHING!! i mean when i was at her house one nite spending the nite we sorta held hands and talked about things personal. I have feelings i cant explain. I told her once that i sorta liked this girl and she said that she would accept me as what ever i was. Shes coming home next saturday and i think im gonna tell her but i keep thinking over in my head NO! cuz i dont want to lose her friendship. im confused 2 if u want to talk just tell me hur bobdesigner4u@yahoo.com once we were talking and i told her that i wanted to find out what it was like to kiss sum1 so i tried to ask but the words wouldnt come out. im scared no 1 knows i am. i need sum advice. i dont want to hurt her. and whe never she gets upset i alwayz sooth her. i dont know, i sum times have to make up a boyfriend cuz i dont want them to get suspisious. i dont know i really dont know what to do.... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: tiena [Edit] Date Posted: 09:46:17 01/03/06 Tue wel it seems like u are having some very harsh problems, but i do know exactly how you feel, i am in the same position as you, my best friend. and she is too a female, indeed i always felt that what i feel is wrong, but most people go through these type of things.i have been, in 'love' with this person for at least 2 years now, and i know i am, i feel that i want to tell her but i know it might not be for the best, i hope that some time in the future i can tell, i to have many boyfriends, and am most definately not a 'lesbian'!! but u will soon relise you are gradually getting over her. i know i am after 2 years. but i do have these feelings still, i always became very jelouse if i saw her kissing some other boy, of with someone else. but u need to be strong and you will get over this, u may think that you won't but trust me, you will. i know being 18 you think that you are mature and know and understand your love life but i am 18 2, so dont worry it will pass. if you really do feel that you dont want to have these feelings then be strong, i hope i have been a help 2 you. Tiena xx [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: nins [Edit] Date Posted: 14:52:08 01/08/06 Sun Hey, well yeah, its a terrible situation to be in. It was 4 years ago and me and my beast mate got really drunk and ended up kissing. The next nite things went further. He were like this for about 3 years and it was horrible. I loved being with her but she just put it down to us having a fling. she had a boyfriend at the time and it used to kill me seeing them 2gether. anyway, we were living together when the whole situation got out of hand and we had a huge argument and she moved out. We didnt speak to eachother for a year. It killed me at first. I was broken hearted and really depressed. oddly enough, about 4 months ago we met eachother as friends again. we didnt want to lose eachother again and I never thought we would end up kissing again as I thought it would spoil everything. we did end up kissing again, and she admited she loved me, and always did. she was just scared. I love her too...the only thing is, she wont go out with me as I am a girl and she thinks its wrong!!! so, yeah, some things in life are just messed up!!! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: kayce [Edit] Date Posted: 16:46:13 02/27/06 Mon Hey! i was looking for answers about my life when i saw that you was going through the same thing i am. I am straight but i am in love with my best friend too. but i'm only 15 so.me and her are like sister's we are always hugging and people are starting to think that is wierd. See but if she ever knew i loved her; she would never talk to me b/c she has asked me if i was gay alot of times and i can tell her no cause i aint but i am so in love with her that it drives me insane. I tell her i love her and she tells me she loves me too and that suckes even more cause if she ever knew how much i cared about her. And listen at this one time when we were drinking i stayed the night with her and she was like all over me and saying she loved me and all of this stuff then the next day she acted like she didnt remember.i dont know if that was true but the funny thing is i am friends with her boy friend at the time and i was talking to him on the phone and then she kissed me and thats how this all started.her boyfriend knew it happened and at the time i had a boyfriend.lol then three days later she told me her life was better without me and then me and her boyfriend told her what happened. We stoped being friends for like 2 weeks but i would still text her. I couldnt even eat and i would cry all night. See she tells me she hates gay people but she has alot of friends that are gay and i dont get exactly what is going on with them. Well now we are best friends again. I know if i tell her i really love her that she wont be my friend cuz she said if i was gay she wouldnt be my friend. She gives me so many reasons to think she loves me but i think she is afraid so she hides it. I think even if she loves me that she wouldnt be with me b/c of her family. I am trying so hard to just hold on to our friendship. i mean i knew i was in love with her from the first time i saw her and it freaked me out at first. I am hoping that these feelings will go away but now i know they aint going to so i will hide them from her just so i can be friends with her. i think you should tell her i mean its better than living with it all the time. When i am out of school i will probly tell her the truth. I think she already knows and just dont want to believe it. Now we are both single so and Josh her x boyfriend now is trying to ruin our friendship she broke up with him cuz he would lie to everyone and even told her parents i was gay and they hated me. Thats half the reason she broke up with him. She told me after she broke up with him that she told her family that she would rather have me...as a friend.then to have him as a boyfriend. but what i dont get is its like they are still dating cuz they are always with eachother and fighting, but i am with her most of the time she says he invited himself to hang out with her but i cant ever get time alone with her anymore and she doesnt talk about me spending the night with her again cuz of what happened the last time, i dont think she trusts me. well i guess you are tired of hearing my story but i would like it if you would send me an e-mail so we can help eachother figure out what to do [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: adam khan [Edit] Date Posted: 04:19:42 03/09/06 Thu >>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>judge harshly. hey there! oh hunny, bless. i do understand what youre going through. but try and remember that thers always someone worse off than yourself, like me! im a 26 year old asian male. im in love witha girl who is som much youger than me. ive neve r felt this way before ever. i keep asking why i couldnt hae learned the lesson of love at a younger age. All i do is think about her, im so in love with this girl, who doesnt have a clue, and if she did, she would probably never talk to me again. so right now, im just hanging, feeling emotionally tortured. i keep it together all day until i get home, which is when i break down. im so depressed all the time, but as im avery good performig arts student, im able to keep a lid on my feelings, as no one is any the wiser. i guess i suppos i would prefer to have her in my life as a friend thannot have her in my life at all. that i realise doesnt help, because its donr nothing to me. 26 years old and finally found someone that i want to spend the rest of my lie with, but my feelings arnt reciprocated at all. so i do know how yu feel. i hate feeling this way, just wanting to hold her, touch her, kiss her, be with her, around her, its awfull. it doesnt help her always trying to get a reaction out of my playfully, flirting, messing about with me in class. we work so well together, and this is killing me. i know of a few ladies who really like me but, from, the 28th of oct 2005, no one compares at all. my intentions are nothing bu sencere, so try and be strong, and realise the fac that there are people out there who would love you unconditionally. this probably doesnt/hasnt helped you in which case i apologise. chin up, take care. be lucku in love regards adam khan. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: jesse (love) [Edit] Date Posted: 11:34:27 01/28/07 Sun i think you should give it time you'll tell her when your ready i felt the same way with my bestmate danny when i told him he friked out first but got the message and told me it is fine this things happen when you really love your bestmate. just tell her and give her space to breath and her'll tell you what see says if she really loves you as a friend she wouln't leave you trust me that happend to me it was sceary but danny told me it's fine and now were the most bestmate anyone can have. love xxxxx jesse. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: rewrite [Edit] Date Posted: 16:45:31 03/02/07 Fri i know it's late but i was searching for "i think i'm in love with my best friend" and this forum came up. i'm a 20 year old bi female who attends a rather small college. i've known this girl for over a year and she's my best friend in the entire world. i think she's beautiful, smart and everything else you could ever describe a person as. she has such low self esteem that she doesn't see it in herself. she's such a quiet and shy person that i just want to wrap my arms around her and protect her. i know that i'm in love with her. there are no doubts in my mind about that. like many of you my friend has voiced her opinion of same sex couples as "gross" and it killed me on the inside. here's the thing...she's never had a boyfriend (she's almost 20). she's never been kissed. never talks about any guys she thinks are cute or stares when an obviously hot guy walks by. good luck everyone [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Brandi (so confused) [Edit] Date Posted: 00:58:50 03/16/08 Sun >>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>judge harshly. This is so crazy bc I feel the same way about one of my best friends..I am 23..I don't consider myself a lesbian or even bi to tell you the truth. I find women attractive but the only one that I really want to be with is my best friend. I'm in the process of trying to figure out whether or not she could possibly have the same feelings I do. She talks to me like a bf should talk to his gf..she says things to me that I wouldn't really want her to say to me in front of others..just the way she acts around me makes me nervous in public so does that mean she is into me? I have never been so confused in my life. We have both had bf's but she says she'd rather have me around than some dude that is gonna fuck her over. What's hard for me is the physical attraction I'm going through..we are so close and constantly hanging out so she feels comfortable wearing certain things around me..God if she only knew how I felt about her. I wanna tell her..I wanna hold her..touch her..kiss her...it drives me literally insane that I can't do these things to her that I just don't know how to be around her anymore. The difference in my relationship though is that she has expressed in the very beginning an interest in kissing other girls...no hatred. I guess I'm lucky..I'm still so scared though. Good luck to u..or really since it was 2 yrs ago I hope it worked out.. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: mWKFDO [Edit] Date Posted: 15:12:03 03/25/04 Thu SHAG HER FACE OFF GIRLIE [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Jeni [Edit] Date Posted: 15:58:59 10/04/04 Mon Okay, I know exactly what you mean. I had the same problem. You may just be too close to her, maybe you should lay off a little, but I don't think your "attracted" to her that way, maybe its just a sign that your spending to much time with one person. Solution: Have a variety of not exactly close friends but buds. Hopw it helps, its just my opinion. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: hannah [Edit] Date Posted: 06:38:51 07/12/05 Tue thats weired exeactly the same thing happenned to me when me n my best friend were really close and still are and i usesd to have these thorts like you of kissing her i couldnt stop thinkin bout her. after about 3 months i told her about hese feeling and she took it so well. she asked questions which was embarrasin but she was great about it. she tort it was just a faze at the time and she made it clear she didnt feel the same which i understood but i still loved her. evrytime we got drunk she bought it up and it seemed like she started to get feelins for me which i really didint expect. she kept sayin its weird and she didnt want to be a lesbian. my feelins got worse and worse i got completely obsessed i wished id never told her. but then she kissed me one nite and another nite she kissed me and told me that at first she found it weird but as time went on she started gettin feelins for me. she told me that she loved me the same as i loved her and had ahad fantasys. but we wer drunk its like she never sed it the nxt. it fuked me up but made me happy. u get so jealouse wen u no she no's u like her and she sits there kissin a boy but she has kissed u. ive still got feelins for this girl tday. we've gone as far as too girls can go together and its great wen uve got her after all this time but the thing is were always drunk wen it happens and the nxt day we can hardly look at each other. its funny how close we used to be and what feelins can do to ppl. u can tell her im glad i told my best friend she didnt judge me for it. but it changed our whole friendship but were still there for each other. the thing is if you let your self love her so much then you wont get over her easily. its bin 2 yrs since i told my mate she told me she felt the same about 2 months ago. i cant think of any one else but her now and she seems to regrte everyfin we done. its streange i always think she dont love me too but ive got this feeling that she does it this look in her eyes it makes my heart sink and i get that same tingle wen she just looks at me. but really i wish i never told her cus i think th feelins mite have gone away [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Ruwantha [Edit] Date Posted: 18:48:58 10/09/05 Sun >SHAG HER FACE OFF GIRLIE hi my love,hi.......................... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Kate [Edit] Date Posted: 12:56:43 05/05/04 Wed I really feel for you. It must be so hard at you're age when you finally think all youre horemones arte sorting themselves out and then you get put into a world of confusion about your sexuality. I think that the thing is to remember that you are young and you've got years and years to find out more about yourself. You're close relationship with you're friend sounds really lovely and i can see why you dont want to jepardise that. In my experience as a straight woman, i still have thought about other women but for now i'm happy just to go with the flow. I tend to have close relationships with many male and female friends who i have thought about kissing but i feel like that can sometimes just be due to the fact that i really do love these people. There are many different forms of love and sometimes when we are lonely and don't have close contact with men it is easy to want to show affection to a really close friend and probably someone who knows you inside out and loves you for who you are. The thing you need to do though is to really look inside yourself and ask yourself if a sexual relationship with a female is what you want or whether youre just looking for an ideal relationship with someone you really care about already. I might be babbling a bit but i just think that you might be feeling lonely and have seen this attachment to you're friend as more than just a friendship. All in all just wait and see, if you are a lesbien it wont hurt anyone to you act on it now or later. I dont think that this is a good idea mentioning this to you're friend until you are totally sure about what you really want. I once told a really good mate that i liked him and things have never been the same since so just tread carefully. Hope this helps. >I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >the subject is brought up when we are with other >friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: andrea [Edit] Date Posted: 19:37:53 10/04/04 Mon hey tiger...i know it's been a while since you've posted this message but i had to respond. I can't tell you how relieved i am to find someone else out there who feels the same way. i understand exactly what you're going thru. I've got a friend just like that...we spend ALOT of time together, know EVERYTHING about each other, talk to each other at least TWICE a day about EVERYTHING. She means the world to me. We have learned so much from each other and we both have never had a closer relationship when it comes to friends. I started having the same feelings of attraction around the time we first became friends. At first it was everything about her, i just wanted to be around her all the time. then we became really close and i really got to know her and love everything about her. i know all her weaknesses and her strengths. i want to be the one to make her happy in ever aspect. when it comes to guys she is not very confident, she is very self conscious. she sees herself as being unattractive, when i see a beautiful sexy woman inside and out, and why any guy would not be attracted to her, i don't know. her lovelife is the one aspect she is not satisfied in... this is where i can't not help. she is not attracted to me like that. but i've come to realize that my wanting to satisfy her in this way is not because i'm gay, but because i just really want her to be happy. Now don't get me wrong i had those same feelings too...watching her dance and the way she moves, the way she laughs and her smile, talking til four in the morning about everything that crosses our minds etc. etc. i still do have those feelings...but i also know that as much as i want to be the one to make her happy, a physical relationship would never be what i really want from her. that's how i knew that i wasn't gay. and it is just a phase. but i'll tell you what, i've never had feelings like that for anyone male or female. but from this experience(as stupid as it may sound) I have learned alot about what i want from those who i let into my life whether they're a love intrest or just a friend. i heard somewhere that feelings like this are not uncommon among women. i'm not sure why but it's good to know you're not alone. hope this helps. let me know how things are with you're friend. hope those boys are treatin her right! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: what should we do? Author: beth and linnie [Edit] Date Posted: 23:43:34 04/06/05 Wed ok well me and my best friend, that is like a sister, currently frenched. we have sorda been longing to do this in a while then all of a sudden we just did it, because i have a new boyfriend and i was afraid i couldnt kiss right. we dont exactly think we are lesbians or bi sexual but we do think we are bi curious. we are thinkin about kissing again......of course to help me with my kissing issue but none the less. okay friend here.i've kinda been wanting to kiss her for a while,but i was scared of telling her.i was also scared it would be concidered cheating......is it? she is a very beautiful person, and i love her alot. i think i might wanna kiss her again soon butnot just to help with her kissing skills. what should we do? linnie and beth please e-mail us back with help or advice. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: konstantine [Edit] Date Posted: 16:29:42 11/18/04 Thu this is so crazy. ive recently discovred that im in love with my best friend. shes perfect. im not gay though. like, when she touches me, even just on the arm or while walking with her, my stomach turns to knots and i feel like exploding. i love her so much. for everything she is and is not. i love her faults and her strengths. i love the way she smiles and tells me everything and lets me tell her everything in return. shes mostly straight. and has a serious boyfriend. and shes in love with him and told me shes going to marry him. im happy for her but at the same time, jealous. i want to belong to her and her me. ive never felt this way about anyone. ever. i think about sex with other girls and i find it weird and awkward for me because im straight but when i think about it with HER, it feels right. i cant explain it. i think if i told her how i felt, she would understand. shes questionable. but i know i can never have her. i also dont want to jeapordize our close friendship. im afriad if i DO tell her, we'll never be the same if she clearly doesnt feel the same way. im so confused. and it feels good to know there are other people who feel like i do. god, this girl is beautiful. sometimes, in the way she hugs me so tight, i wonder if maybe she knows. > >>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Paula [Edit] Date Posted: 01:02:44 02/08/05 Tue Wow, i know you posted this message last year in january, but i just happen to bump into it right now, and i just want to tell you that i'm going through the same thing with a friend of mines, we're not best friends or anything, we didn't get there, cuz she thinks that imma backstab her or something, when im not, i like her a lot, i've come to think that im in love with her, cuz we already did things, and we got into a little argument, it's been 5 months since we haven't really spoken, and i miss her like crazy, i haven't stopped thinking about her not once, and that just can't be a simple attraction, so i understand what you're going through, or went through, it sucks man, but this girl she really is BEAUTIFUL!!!! to the 10th power, but now she's avoiding me at all costs cuz i wrote her a letter telling her that i cared for her, but i know she feels the same, we have this spiritual connection that is very powerful and it's why i feel she feels the same, I think that someone said that by her saying that it's disgusting or whatever that she might be dealing with something similar, not every time we say things we really mean it, we just try to go against that, to convince people, but there's many ways you can find out how she really feels, or if she really is disgusted by all that, which i highly doubt it, we're not stupid we can tell when some one is into us, you might think your playing it out, but she might of notice how you feel towards her, and i guess she doesn't know how to cope with that, or might not know what to say or to tell you that she knows how you feel, and she might just be confused herself, try making her open upm to a little more, just mention that liking someone or doing something from the same sex doesn't have to be disgusting, it's just a feeling you have towards another person, caring for someone it's not a crime. At least you get to speak with her, but this girl is trippin big time, i wish i can get to talk to her like that on a regular basis i would just tell her straigh out, but eventually she'll come around.... hope i help a little, i need help myself! LOL!!!!! Good luck [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: amber [Edit] Date Posted: 11:14:14 05/13/06 Sat >this is so crazy. ive recently discovred that im in >love with my best friend. shes perfect. im not gay >though. like, when she touches me, even just on the >arm or while walking with her, my stomach turns to >knots and i feel like exploding. i love her so much. >for everything she is and is not. i love her faults >and her strengths. i love the way she smiles and tells >me everything and lets me tell her everything in >return. shes mostly straight. and has a serious >boyfriend. and shes in love with him and told me shes >going to marry him. im happy for her but at the same >time, jealous. i want to belong to her and her me. ive >never felt this way about anyone. ever. i think about >sex with other girls and i find it weird and awkward >for me because im straight but when i think about it >with HER, it feels right. i cant explain it. i think >if i told her how i felt, she would understand. shes >questionable. but i know i can never have her. i also >dont want to jeapordize our close friendship. im >afriad if i DO tell her, we'll never be the same if >she clearly doesnt feel the same way. im so confused. >and it feels good to know there are other people who >feel like i do. god, this girl is beautiful. >sometimes, in the way she hugs me so tight, i wonder >if maybe she knows. > >> >>>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i >personally >>>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing >is >>>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me >shes >>>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i >do >>>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause >i >>>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or >if >>>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean >the >>>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin >me >>>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>>judge harshly. i don't think that you are gay or attracted to girls at all. maybe it's just that you have found a true friend you know those friends that you hear about on t.v. and loving someone doesn't mean that you are in love with them i love all of my close friends and can't do without them but im not gay either. so in short if you know your not gay then feeling protective over your friend is fine don't let it bother you and if your religious then just pray about it but im sure this is perfectly normal [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: mido mslm [Edit] Date Posted: 12:19:28 03/23/05 Wed Okay I dont know if ur gonna read this cuz its kinda really late but i just read it today so im gonna choose to reply so here it goes. My advice is that you dont tell her if ur sure that she will just walk away .. im a guy and im a bisexual and im in love with my straight best friend and i actually TOLD HIM but i only did that cuz i know him so well , its like i know everything about him i know him more than he knows himself neway thats not the issue , when i told him he wasint really shocked cuz he didnt have anything against gay guys .. he actually though it was funny and that why i told him cuz i knew he wouldnt be mad .. i told him this when he had a girlfriend ( still does ) and whats so amazing is that he told me that he knows that im a better person ( only as a person ) for him to date cuz there is no one that knows him so well atleast not better then me the point is , problems like these are fixed .. we were all straight but one day things change .. maybe the ones we love will change for us ? maybe they wont? and thats not for all of us to fix but me telling him that i love him makes him realize that yes i am the one for him if i am a girl .. that really does not bother me cuz hes happy and i want him 2 feel that way .. so thats pretty much it .. you can add me if you feel like talking ppl refer to me as a problem solver .. but im not perfect .. best of luck !! >I really feel for you. It must be so hard at you're >age when you finally think all youre horemones arte >sorting themselves out and then you get put into a >world of confusion about your sexuality. I think that >the thing is to remember that you are young and you've >got years and years to find out more about yourself. >You're close relationship with you're friend sounds >really lovely and i can see why you dont want to >jepardise that. In my experience as a straight woman, >i still have thought about other women but for now i'm >happy just to go with the flow. I tend to have close >relationships with many male and female friends who i >have thought about kissing but i feel like that can >sometimes just be due to the fact that i really do >love these people. There are many different forms of >love and sometimes when we are lonely and don't have >close contact with men it is easy to want to show >affection to a really close friend and probably >someone who knows you inside out and loves you for who >you are. The thing you need to do though is to really >look inside yourself and ask yourself if a sexual >relationship with a female is what you want or whether >youre just looking for an ideal relationship with >someone you really care about already. I might be >babbling a bit but i just think that you might be >feeling lonely and have seen this attachment to you're >friend as more than just a friendship. All in all just >wait and see, if you are a lesbien it wont hurt anyone >to you act on it now or later. I dont think that this >is a good idea mentioning this to you're friend until >you are totally sure about what you really want. I >once told a really good mate that i liked him and >things have never been the same since so just tread >carefully. > >Hope this helps. > >>I am so confused. I really would appreciate someone >>talkin to me, cause i cant talk to anyone i personally >>know about this subject. I am 18 years old, female, >>and i always assumed i was straight. I was attracted >>to guys and all that..had bfs and im attracted to >>them. But i also have a best friend, this girl..she's >>straight, has had TONS of boyfriends, and the thing is >>we're VERY VERY CLOSE.like sisters. We're so close >>that I cant hide anythin from her. But theres one >>thing she doesnt know, is that im madly in love with >>her. Or so I think! We talk for hours, spend time >>together, and everytime shes talking to me i think >>about kissing her and hugging her and holding her. I >>want to take away all her pain, when she tells me shes >>in pain, when her boyfriend hurts her. When she >>touches me, i feel something tingles, i feel like im >>holding myself back from touching her. I dont want to >>ever lose her, shes my only true best friend. ANd i do >>know that she would freak out if i told her this, she >>would walk away. shes the type who would just walk >>away without explaining, because shes afraid of pain >>and hurting herself and others. we;re so close, that >>its getting to be really hard to be with her , around >>her, when i have these feelings. i feel like im lying >>to her , like im guilty..she keeps telling me that i >>hide things from her, that im not an open book, i >>laugh and say ofcourse not. but the subject of >>lesbians and bis doesnt appeal to her, at times when >>the subject is brought up when we are with other >>friends..she says that its disgusting to be attracted >>to the same sex. When i heard that, it killed, cause i >>hated myself for being "disgusting" in her eyes. Or if >>i ever WAS disgusting,if she ever found out. I dont >>know wat to do, im not even sure if i like her that >>way..I am straight but shes the only girl ..i mean the >>only PERSOn..thats ever made me feel this way. It >>scares me. I dont know wat to do about it..and I dont >>even know if havin these thoughts and feelings about >>her means i love her..PLEASE HElP by atleast tellin me >>wat u think..I really need help..i need ppl who wont >>judge harshly. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: kris [Edit] Date Posted: 17:16:52 09/24/05 Sat well i just came out to my whole school casue they put "queer" on my locker and i put "and proud" by it. im sooo happy. but i still havent come out to my parents and i like this one girl and she likes me back but she lives in scotland and i live in the states.what should i do. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Mrs. Gasque [Edit] Date Posted: 12:16:44 01/16/06 Mon >well i just came out to my whole school casue they put >"queer" on my locker and i put "and proud" by it. im >sooo happy. but i still havent come out to my parents >and i like this one girl and she likes me back but she >lives in scotland and i live in the states.what >should i do. I think you should tell your parents. if your proude bout it then thay should understand. and this young lady you like you should talk to her and let her know your feelings. ou should neva hide what you feel. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: A [Edit] Date Posted: 22:22:33 04/08/05 Fri Im not so sure if people are still posting or replying to this. But if anyone needs to talk to me about this e mail me....I had the same situation. My friend and I became close and from the start always hugged and showed affection like cuddling but not in a sexual way at the time. We never thought of eachother physically we just loved to show eachother how much we love one another and ya we thought it was so weird. Began to question it, because we knew we weren't lesbian because we weren't attracted to other females, just loved eachother so much. I know her inside and out same from her to me, and it became more and more as days went on. Talking all night on the phone, typical best friends then we kissed. Kept talking about it after and saying what the heck how weird is all of this, it was awkward but I knew i loved her so much still and wanted to tell her but I wasn't sure if it was mutual on that level yet. Then every time something happened more and more happened with it. To hold feelings as in being in love with someone whether its a stranger or your best friend, you need to get it out. It is the best feeling in the world to tell them, nbecause I just did recently and you know I never would of thought it was mutual but it was and now its a secret relationship I have. I hate having to hide it but that's how it is when you have friends who would be like what the hell! I am just so happy that she knows and it feels awesome to get it out, but even more when they tell you they are the same way. It's not abnormal I just realized if they;'re are a bunch o0f people like us writing....I thought I was crazy at first. But I am just in love and yes it's my best friend and that's why our relationship is so much better than anyone elses. hope this helpe I have no one to talk to about all of this because I have to hide it so it would be awesome if someone e mailed or wanted to talk! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: A [Edit] Date Posted: 22:23:37 04/08/05 Fri >Im not so sure if people are still posting or replying >to this. But if anyone needs to talk to me about this >e mail me....I had the same situation. My friend and I >became close and from the start always hugged and >showed affection like cuddling but not in a sexual way >at the time. We never thought of eachother physically >we just loved to show eachother how much we love one >another and ya we thought it was so weird. Began to >question it, because we knew we weren't lesbian >because we weren't attracted to other females, just >loved eachother so much. I know her inside and out >same from her to me, and it became more and more as >days went on. Talking all night on the phone, typical >best friends then we kissed. Kept talking about it >after and saying what the heck how weird is all of >this, it was awkward but I knew i loved her so much >still and wanted to tell her but I wasn't sure if it >was mutual on that level yet. Then every time >something happened more and more happened with it. To >hold feelings as in being in love with someone whether >its a stranger or your best friend, you need to get it >out. It is the best feeling in the world to tell them, >nbecause I just did recently and you know I never >would of thought it was mutual but it was and now its >a secret relationship I have. I hate having to hide it >but that's how it is when you have friends who would >be like what the hell! I am just so happy that she >knows and it feels awesome to get it out, but even >more when they tell you they are the same way. It's >not abnormal I just realized if they;'re are a bunch >o0f people like us writing....I thought I was crazy at >first. But I am just in love and yes it's my best >friend and that's why our relationship is so much >better than anyone elses. >hope this helpe I have no one to talk to about all of >this because I have to hide it so it would be awesome >if someone e mailed or wanted to talk! allovait2@yahoo.com [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: marj [Edit] Date Posted: 19:49:00 01/26/06 Thu >>Im not so sure if people are still posting or replying >>to this. But if anyone needs to talk to me about this >>e mail me....I had the same situation. My friend and I >>became close and from the start always hugged and >>showed affection like cuddling but not in a sexual way >>at the time. We never thought of eachother physically >>we just loved to show eachother how much we love one >>another and ya we thought it was so weird. Began to >>question it, because we knew we weren't lesbian >>because we weren't attracted to other females, just >>loved eachother so much. I know her inside and out >>same from her to me, and it became more and more as >>days went on. Talking all night on the phone, typical >>best friends then we kissed. Kept talking about it >>after and saying what the heck how weird is all of >>this, it was awkward but I knew i loved her so much >>still and wanted to tell her but I wasn't sure if it >>was mutual on that level yet. Then every time >>something happened more and more happened with it. To >>hold feelings as in being in love with someone whether >>its a stranger or your best friend, you need to get it >>out. It is the best feeling in the world to tell them, >>nbecause I just did recently and you know I never >>would of thought it was mutual but it was and now its >>a secret relationship I have. I hate having to hide it >>but that's how it is when you have friends who would >>be like what the hell! I am just so happy that she >>knows and it feels awesome to get it out, but even >>more when they tell you they are the same way. It's >>not abnormal I just realized if they;'re are a bunch >>o0f people like us writing....I thought I was crazy at >>first. But I am just in love and yes it's my best >>friend and that's why our relationship is so much >>better than anyone elses. >>hope this helpe I have no one to talk to about all of >>this because I have to hide it so it would be awesome >>if someone e mailed or wanted to talk! > > >allovait2@yahoo.com i would really like to talk to you!! please email me back!! marj from tennessee [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: K [Edit] Date Posted: 11:08:35 05/11/05 Wed hey, i just recently found out that my best friend is in love with me. i can totally understand why she feels the way she does because we're like inseparable. so it puts me at ease to know that there are others out there going through the same thing. she told me because she knew i wouldnt overreact or treat her differently. now as for me, i dont think the feeling is mutual. i've never thought of her like that. but for some odd reason i find it flattering that she likes me. i dont know what or how i should be feeling right now. so if u ever need to talk, im here. but i totally understand how happy you are because yall are so close. is there anything i can do for my best friend? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: i think im bi and i think i love my straight friend!! Author: amanda [Edit] Date Posted: 18:52:20 08/08/05 Mon i think i may be bi and i i think im in love with my best firend but shes striaght and thinks bis and lezs are nasty casue she has a lez sister.i dont know what to do casue im not sure if im bi but i have been attratched to girls alot more then guys latly . but i need advice plz help me i dont know what to do! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im bi and i think i love my straight friend!! Author: rach [Edit] Date Posted: 12:12:16 08/13/05 Sat i feel the same way! i like a lot of my friends that are girls. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im bi and i think i love my straight friend!! Author: Anna [Edit] Date Posted: 23:44:32 08/23/05 Tue >i feel the same way! i like a lot of my friends that >are girls. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: AC [Edit] Date Posted: 13:06:30 11/12/05 Sat every1 iz in love wit htheir bffs because they know them too good and u reviale things to them i can relate [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: courtney [Edit] Date Posted: 12:38:19 01/13/06 Fri im in love with my best friend too. i used to think that i was straight too. untill i found out she was bi...then all of a sudden i feel so weird. me and her are like sisters..we are irreserprable. i dont know what to do either. Shes the only girl ive been atracted to. im not sure? so what do i do? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: S [Edit] Date Posted: 12:42:50 08/13/05 Sat Well well, am I surprised. I really thought I was going nuts, but jeez, seems like there are quite a lot of us going nuts round about the same time. I'm falling for my newest best friend and am not very pleased to say this would be the second time in 6 years this is happening. And the worst about it all - they are both married. The first one was about to get out of hand, but she decided she can't continue and it stopped. Very hard for me of cause and I moved away after a while. We're still friends, but will never be as close as before. And guess, now the same thing is happening and I'm not so sure I should say anything this time round, cause I just now I'm gonna end up getting hurt. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: J [Edit] Date Posted: 12:04:56 02/18/06 Sat It's terrible. Knowing you love your best friend. KNOWING you love her. Afraid to say anything because you wonder if she feels the same. And you don't want to screw up your relationship. I am there. And it's a horrible place to be. I am considering just opening up and telling her exactly how I feel. I don't want to lose her as a friend. But I can't go around with this inside me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: ANONYMUS (CONFUSED AND SAD) [Edit] Date Posted: 02:43:01 08/25/08 Mon Iknow exactly what your going through because im going through the same thing .i know my best friend definately isnt bi or lesbian and is no way into that sort of thing which really makes it hard and i would never dare to tell her .I once confessed i thought i may be Bi but didnt tell her i fancied her and she said she didnt think i was but has been more distant with me since no way dare i tell her how i really feel about her and knowing nothing will ever come of it is depressing me.i also feel its wrong that i feel this way coz im married with kids [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: dipblue [Edit] Date Posted: 08:01:12 04/28/05 Thu hey "tiger" you know what...may be she talks bad about gay people but she loves you because you are her best friend i believe that if you tell her how you feel first of all you will feel better and she will help you with your feeling. that doesnt mean of course that she will fall in love with you, but you will stay best friends like you are now and try to solve the "problem". read all of the things that people wrote for you and think which one matches more with what your heart and mind say. i wish you good luck with whatever you deside to do. :) [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: dipblue [Edit] Date Posted: 08:01:22 04/28/05 Thu hey "tiger" you know what...may be she talks bad about gay people but she loves you because you are her best friend i believe that if you tell her how you feel first of all you will feel better and she will help you with your feeling. that doesnt mean of course that she will fall in love with you, but you will stay best friends like you are now and try to solve the "problem". read all of the things that people wrote for you and think which one matches more with what your heart and mind say. i wish you good luck with whatever you deside to do. :) [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but she is straight Author: Foni [Edit] Date Posted: 20:27:57 02/04/06 Sat I am a bisexual girl and my best friend says she is straight but sometimes when we are just talking or around each other i feel a different vibe i no u cant turn someone gay or bi but wat do i do? If i feel this strong vibe from her thats make me think there is hope but wat if there's no hope at all and im waisting my time....?.... Im in love w her but will we still be able to be best friends or will it be too weird for me to still be friends with her? Do i have a chance? pleaseeee helppp me!! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: t [Edit] Date Posted: 01:07:56 07/06/05 Wed i am in the same situation. i am deeply in love with my friend who is a guy. i'm not gay but i really feel something for him and i told him. he was shocked but we were still friends but i really wanna be with him cuz i'm in love with him and he is straight. he doesn't like homosexuality. and i know but i really love him. how do i make him want me? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: pel [Edit] Date Posted: 19:04:20 07/07/05 Thu I think I'm in a similar situation... however one difference, I'm a gay man who is has a very close friendship with a straight man. Through some ups and downs in our friendship, we've grown closer and closer. It's very weird, because from the start of it we were close with him knowing that I'm gay and I knowing that he's straight, almost immediately, but not in the sexual sense. It was and is, and probably always will be a non-sexual sort of love that we have. He tells me that he loves me and the same from me to him... I'd say that it's a very deep friendship love, but it's more than that, it's astonishingly much more than friendship, but again non-sexual. It's cool, it's fantastic to have a such a close connection with another person. He's told me that if only I were a female...well, you know. Anyway... At first I thought how could I make him want me, but now it's come to the point where I realize that it doesn't matter. What I want more than anything is to keep this person in my life because he means a whole lot to me. I think that's a lot better than for something to happen that wouldn't be typically him and would probably just make things weird between us. I'd rather regret not having had a sexual relationship with him, than to lose the loving relationship we share, something that is very important to not only me but to him as well. I hope this helps someone, as it seems to have helped me to put my thoughts into words. >i am in the same situation. i am deeply in love with >my friend who is a guy. i'm not gay but i really feel >something for him and i told him. he was shocked but >we were still friends but i really wanna be with him >cuz i'm in love with him and he is straight. he >doesn't like homosexuality. and i know but i really >love him. how do i make him want me? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Matt Calas [Edit] Date Posted: 09:59:16 08/17/05 Wed Im in a similar situation, but i am gay. I've told my best mate that im bisexual, becasue i didn't know how he'd react. I've never told him how i feel about him, it would sketch him out, but i think he suspects something anyway. A few of my other mates know how i feel, and none of them recon he'd like it. So i dont know what to do, and i've tried getting over him, but it just doesnt work. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: Danny [Edit] Date Posted: 15:22:41 09/19/05 Mon Hey Matt, I think im in love with my best friend and he's a guy so I was wondering if you can help me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: annomous [Edit] Date Posted: 21:07:21 06/13/06 Tue well first of all think to your self if you truly know that your straight, being in love with your friend maybe just a comforting thing, i have a best friend who thinks she is straight to but says she is attracted to one of her friends she has been hurt by most men and feels that she can get comfort and trust from a female. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with my best friend but im straight! Author: john [Edit] Date Posted: 14:10:51 08/31/06 Thu im in love with a straight friend of mine and it hurts what do i do to make him want me [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with A GIRL cause im straight!!! Author: Tom [Edit] Date Posted: 22:00:35 02/04/06 Sat yall are a bunch of fag-losers your straight friend should beat the hell out of you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: i think im in love with A GIRL cause im straight!!! Author: chasity [Edit] Date Posted: 17:25:13 02/05/06 Sun