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Date Posted: 10:38:27 01/21/08 Mon
Author: LisaW
Subject: I know this will sound sort of trivial, but I was watching the football games yesterday and when the games were over and the players were meeting each other in the middle of the field, I found it so interesting that to a player the men all hugged and congratulated each other. The game was over, the competion complete and they all came back together as friends. Women, I think, have a hard time letting go of actions, even if they are done in fun. Our emotions play such a strong role, that it can interfere with our relationships.
In reply to: dea 's message, "in general, i do believe it’s harder for women to create bonds with other women. i think it’s just the nature of things. men have that natural disposition to belong to a group, a team, an army, and to create long-term bonds between each other. in peace or war, they live in a way that allows them to strengthen that bond, in spite of all the competition within the group. it’s strange, somehow men are able to compete and develop bonds at the same time. as if they knew each other’s place in the structure of power and were able to respect each other, and even the attempts to change that structure of power are accepted as just another rule of the game. the best, the strongest, deserves to rule. even the relation with the enemy is such that they can come to a point of respecting their enemy, respecting in the nemesis the attributes they consider valuable in themselves. it seems to me that women can’t do that. (more in the reply)" on 10:25:27 01/21/08 Mon


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[> [> Loved your thoughts and can totally relate (see my reply to Kathleen above). I also love watching the team mentality that men get, and am much happier myself when I am in that situation. It's why I never minded playing pick-up games of whatever sport with the guys. >> -- Natalie C., 14:02:15 01/21/08 Mon

I've been on sports teams since I was in kindergarten. I played soccer for my township before there was a girl's league. I was the girl the weekend of prom that was playing Ultimate Frisbee with the boys rather than laying on my beach towel with the girls.

However, even women's teams are different than men's. Despite the "battle" scenario, there are still grudges and cliques within the team. I envy my brothers' participation in sports because they have that easy comraderie with teammates that girls just don't get. And it's part of the reason I love following my city's professional teams - the guys (at least this season) seem to be playing for each other and generally gel well. As woman, it's not something we experience very often.

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