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The weird thing is...I think I'm a little on the fence with this one. If it was me, and everybody around me was telling me to run for the hills and get the hell away from someone that I was in a relationship with? I think I'm more likely to tell them to stay out of it and let me handle things my own way. I'm more likely to suspect other people who might not understand the kind of connection that we share than to just take their word for it. And yet...on the other hand...their comments (considering they weren't coming from a place of jealousy or malice) might put me on 'alert'. Like I'd pay closer attention to see if I end up seeing what they see. I'd keep an open mind, but anyone just trying to talk me out of not being with someone because of their opinions...would be in for a rude awakening.

At the same time...if I was trying to warn somebody else that I cared about from having to suffer through pain, heartbreak, or emotional abuse...I'd try REALLY hard to convince them to leave. But I'd have to be honest with myself and think, "If it were me...I wouldn't listen either." So, even though I might start by charging in like an angry bull...if they decide to stay, I'd have to back off, and hopefully they'll come to me when they need me. It's all I can do. I'd shrug my shoulders, like, "When you get done being hurt and crying yourself to sleep...come see me. Until then, I wish you luck."

I think that's the best way to look at it. Then again, that's just me. ::Shrugs::

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