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Date Posted: 08:25:41 01/04/20 Sat
In reply to:
's message, "Imagine Question For 1/1" on 19:48:41 01/03/20 Fri
The way I look at life is kind of the opposite to the way a lot of others do. I've noticed a lot of people tend to forgive people they "think" they should for reasons like they're family, or a friend they need, etc.
For me, just because they're a family member it doesn't mean I continuously forgive them. I have two family members I don't speak to. My younger sister, who through her boyfriends, has brought nothing but drama and violence to my mother's door, yet she keeps dating dead beats and violent pricks. And that's her right, but she has children too, and doesn't give much thought about their well being. And then she involves my mum, and puts her at risk. There's a lot more to it. It's been ongoing for 15 years, but it's too complicated and private to go into it more.
I don't care that she's my sister. As far as I am concerned, we're no longer related. Yet mum keeps forgiving her and helping her, with money, safety and babysitting, and I have seen what it has done to my her, which is why I feel so strongly about not letting details like biology prevent me from detaching myself from people who bring harm to my life (or hurt those I care about).
The second person is my biological dad. I haven't spoken to him since 2006. The reasons again are complicated. But let's just say he was never a responsible father. Here is an example of how bad he is, when I was a baby, he left me home alone, with towels on a clotheshorse, next to our fire, to go shag a woman who lived about 2 miles away.
On his way, he crashed his motorbike into a wall, and was in hospital for weeks. As well as a fractured skull, he got a divorce, but not the shag.
He's better off out of my life.
In general, I prefer life simple. I can't stand the bitching and the gossip and the backstabbing. I have a few people close to me, and I don't hesitate to drop those who bring more trouble than they're worth to my life. It doesn't matter who they are. I only have one life and I don't want to waste it on petty drama, and people who'll betray your trust for something small.
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