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Date Posted: 06:48:16 02/15/20 Sat
Author: Mike
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In reply to: Comicality 's message, "Imagine Question For 2/15" on 04:38:07 02/15/20 Sat

So where is the line? When and how do you know that what you're feeling for the guy or girl you're craving is actual 'love', or something else? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

I don't really know. It's hard even for me, when I evaluate my past relationships, if and when I have actually cared so much about someone I would call it love. My internal defense mechanism usually prevents me from getting too close to other people and I find it hard to really connect with someone so profoundly. I'm kind of glad that's the case though, I don't have a string of heartbreaks or grief.

That said, it might have happened once or twice. My first serious boyfriend, I probably did love him. But love's a blurry concept, and hard to define, which is why I can't really answered the question.

If love means that I wanted to touch and hold him and missed him when I wasn't with him, and I felt really sad for a while when we broke up, then I guess I loved him. I remember feeling love sick because I was missing him so much. But now I feel nothing for him. Now, I can barely remember how I felt for him back then. Was it just puppy love? How can it be compared to the love of a married couple who have been together for years?

Then again, maybe the length of time isn't the sole factor. I've seen older couples grow apart, and even those who're still together, their relationships don't seem to have the same passion of young couples. Who's really to say who has 'more' love going on?
All I know is that it felt special at the time. Even if I now can't 'feel' what it felt like anymore.

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  • Comsie's Answer... -- Comicality, 08:16:03 02/16/20 Sun

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