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Date Posted: 19:27:39 09/01/23 Fri
Author: Mike
Subject: actually...
In reply to: Comicality 's message, "Imagine Question For 9/1" on 18:43:55 09/01/23 Fri

I find shyness and modesty quite attractive traits.

I don't mean false modesty, where you can just tell that person's farming for compliments, or doing it to sound modest when they're anything but.

And I am also not talking about the depressingly self-hate sort of personality, either. Those who insult themselves, or even hurt themselves to fish for reassurance and compliments.

But I also like it when people admit their (so-called) flaws and don't pretend they don't exist. Like, when a guy tells everyone "he's huge" below the belt. Whether he is or not, when they boast like that, it's a turn-off, for me. So what if you have a big cock? Y'know? Bragging about it turns me off tbh. Don't get me wrong, I find surface level (physical) things appealing too, but it's not what makes me want to have a relationship with someone. If the hottest person in the world wants to date me, but they're basically Donald Trump level of narcissistic, I'd turn them down. I really would.

But a guy who knows he's about average, penis-wise, or not particularly big, even a little short and he's OK with it enough to be honest and even make a joke about it...Maybe not in a crowd, maybe just among friends, but honesty in a crowd counts too. I just like that particular sort of quiet confidence. To me, confidence is about accepting/owning/embracing what you have, not "showing off" what you have to boast or receive clout.

When I see it, I automatically respect them just a little bit more, because it's being confident about yourself and modest, and owning something that could make you vulnerable to superficial people who only care about shallow things.

You're not "supposed" to only be average, or only have slept with one or two people, or, like when you're a teen, admit that you like to jerk off (at least in my experience, growing up it was taboo to admit you liked to masturbate, even though every guy's done it repeatedly).

But to the question at hand here, if I was dating a hottie, that in itself wouldn't be an issue, it would be everything else that makes up his personality.

If I could trust them. If they weren't arrogant and egotistical, those are important to me whether or not they happen to be hot. I don't like narcissists, arrogant people, or those who think their farts smell of roses.

I have also noticed that some conventionally attractive people, even some models, have serious confidence issues, and find faults in the smallest of details. They also tend to care more than average what other people think of them, because they're their own product, in a way.

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  • No way... -- Shadow086, 22:30:03 09/01/23 Fri
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