Date Posted:Monday, May 09, 07:26:22am Author:Dave Zitzkat Subject: The Prom's The Thing! In reply to:
's message, "UConn Graduation" on Monday, May 09, 05:03:06am
Actually, there is one thing my son missed by not going to high school - the ritual of graduation night. True, he graduated from both Tunxis and UConn, but there was no ritual tradition associated with either graduation. Sure there were family parties and probably hundreds of other parties, but one tradition from high school was absent.
When I graduated from Bristol Central High School in 1961, there were dozens of gangs of us who would drive around going to different parties and places all night long celebrating. The tradition is to be with your friends all night and to celebrate the dawn of the day after together. We drove up and down Route 6 in Bristol most of the night and then went to some park or reservoir and hung out til morning. Believe it or not, there were no drugs or alcohol, at least with our group. I can't speak for others.
This was a ritual that marked a transition. The next day was the official start of our new lives, and our class was never again together as a group. The first person in our class to die died a few weeks after grauation in a motorcycle accident. Then there was Vietnam and college.
I don't know if that tradition persists. I kind of hope it does. It really did mark the end of one life and the beginning of another. This is the only thing I regret that my son and daughter missed by not going to high school.
>UConn graduation was yesterday. The actual graduation
>was split up into God-knows how many different parts
>at different times and different locations. I went to
>Gambel where Arts and Sciences graduated.
>My son graduated in a ceremony that was about one
>tenth as impressive as the Honors Medal ceremony last
>weekend. Probably at age 19 the youngest in the class,
>although, I heard that there was a 12 year old also
>receiving his BA. Anyway, my son had mixed feelings
>about leaving, as I did as well when I graduated from
>Penn in 1965. My daughter is looking to get her
>bachelor's degree at an even younger age. There is a
>lot to be said for skipping high school and finishing
>up college early.
>Truly, you don't miss much doing that. My son for
>instance went to the R7 Junior prom on Saturday with a
>girl he has known most of his life, and then graduated
>from UConn on Sunday. I bet that's a first. A Junior
>Prom and college graduation on the same weekend.
>By the way, the Junior Prom, according to him, was
>fabulous. I went up to the reservoir to take pictures
>of him and K., and she and all the other girls looked
>quite beautiful in their gowns, and the guys looked
>quite nice too. For most of them it was probably the
>first time they ever wore a tux, and they carried it
>off, generally, with panache.
>So I guess you don't have to miss the prom if you
>homeschool. At 19 he was quite age appropriate for the
>Prom. (Actually, he just turned 19 last month.) But
>unlike most of the others at the prom, he doesn't have
>to look forward to another year of high school and