VoyForums

VoyUser Login optional ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 12345678 ]
Subject: Is anyone else tired of poor sportsmanship at awards?


Author:
Disgraceful
[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]
Date Posted: 10:50:11 05/08/17 Mon

Is it just me, or does it seem that poor sportsman ship seems to be at its high point. Yesterday while watching several teenaged age groups being awarded I saw:

* A teenager stand with a disgusted look on her face when she received an overall placement.

* A teenager roll her eyes when she received second

* Kids clustered whispering loudly when another child was awarded

I completely understand that they each have their own personal goals and that a particular placement may have fallen short, but what happened to being a gracious winner and competitor.

In other sports I have seen first hand, a coach bench a star player for having a horrible attitude and being a poor sportsman. I wish that could carry over to dance.

I am sorry to rant. I just wish better sportsmanship was something that was valued as much as awards.

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:
[> Subject: I also saw the girls in my daughter's age group run over to congratulate the winner and hug the girl who got second. There is good sportsmanship out there too.


Author:
Mom
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 11:22:41 05/08/17 Mon


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> [> Subject: Thank you for sharing that. We are newer to irish dance and come from a family of team sports players. I'm glad to know its out there and what we saw was an exception.


Author:
OP
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 11:28:31 05/08/17 Mon


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> Subject: The girls in my dd's age group are generally great, but there is always an exception or two. My dd knows that the day she pulled a face or rolled her eyes at awards, she'd be in the car and not feising for a good long while (and her TCs would be absolutely in agreement).


Author:
mom of OC
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 13:12:36 05/08/17 Mon

My daughter spent a looooong time (years) in prelim, watching others place with a smile on her face and clapping in support - only to cry in privacy on the ride home. Now that she has finally been able to break through and succeed in opens, she is very sensitive to being the one to clap for everyone, always smile, and comfort those who may have had a bad day. Her kindness and attitude are the thing I am most proud of from her days in Irish dance. It isn't the awards, it's the person you grow into being.

[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> [> Subject: Same here. Also bothersome: the girls who don't place (we are talking teenagers) who start crying bitterly and generally losing it. Gotta grow a thicker skin, sweethearts.


Author:
It's a tough sport
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 15:01:06 05/08/17 Mon


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> [> Subject: Once overheard a mom decline the offer for another family to give her dd a ride home when results were running long, so the offering family didn't have to listen to a tantrum if she didn't place high enough


Author:
My dd wouldn't get to stay for awards if that was expected
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 15:15:54 05/09/17 Tue


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> Subject: It's not a new phenomenon. I remember years ago when my dd new to prelim, we witnessed one dancer at 3 separate feiseanna throw her trophy to the floor and complain loudly to her parent because her placement was not as high as she would have liked. My dd was not yet placing and found this behavior by one who was fortunate enough to place completely inexplicable.


Author:
I would never tolerate that, personally
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 21:00:17 05/08/17 Mon


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> Subject: Saw an kid throw his belt to the ground and tear up his WQ certificate because he came in second at nationals.


Author:
Classy.
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 09:13:43 05/09/17 Tue


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> Subject: Went to CT one time for a feis. DD was a young teen in prelim. Dancer in the prelim comp just a year younger than hers was not happy with her podium placement so she threw her trophy and screamed at her mother and at her TC. Was amazed to see them both tolerating this nonsense. If my dd ever caused a scene at a feis it would have been her very last one. It seems not all parents have rules.


Author:
we were disgusted
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 18:38:48 05/09/17 Tue


[ Post a Reply to This Message ]
[> Subject: Have a similar story with a funny ending...(inside)


Author:
C2
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 06:56:31 05/10/17 Wed

When my girls were in grades, we were getting ready in the hallway and a young boy (10? 11? Old enough to know better.) was throwing a tantrum at his mom. My youngest looked at me (she was 8 or 9) and said, "If I ever acted like that you'd have dragged me to the car and taken me home."
As the boy continued to berate his mother, his teacher,and friends who were trying to console him, she said, "I want to drag him to the car and send him home!"

Just for the record, our TC is very, very much about sportsmanship. She has a talk she gives to the class, including the parents about behavior and what is expected from the dancers and families who attend our school. She usually gives this talk before the Oireachtas and gives it to those doing trad set all the way up to the championship classes.
That's not to say I haven't seen parents and dancers from our school behaving poorly, but overall it is the exception and not the rule.
The day my daughter screamed at me, her teacher, or anyone else would be the day her dress went on sale and I used all that money for a nice vacation, sans children...

[ Post a Reply to This Message ]


VoyUser Login ] Not required to post.
Post a public reply to this message | Go post a new public message
* HTML allowed in marked fields.
* Message subject (required):

* Name (required):

  Expression (Optional mood/title along with your name) Examples: (happy, sad, The Joyful, etc.) help)

  E-mail address (optional):

* Type your message here:

Choose Message Icon: [ View Emoticons ]

Notice: Copies of your message may remain on this and other systems on internet. Please be respectful.

[ Contact Forum Admin ]


Forum timezone: GMT-7
VF Version: 3.00b, ConfDB:
Before posting please read our privacy policy.
VoyForums(tm) is a Free Service from Voyager Info-Systems.
Copyright © 1998-2017 Voyager Info-Systems. All Rights Reserved.