Author: Cheating goes on everywhere, not just Michigan [Edit]
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Date Posted: 11/ 3/04 9:19:01am
First and foremost, I would like to acknowledge and thank all the wonderful people who have supported me wholeheartedly through this pageant. Of course, my parents come first on my list; they are Txhiaj Suav Yaj and Maiv Txos Xyooj. Next, a million thank yous to my lovely sisters: Mos, Mayyi, Ka, Kabo, Angel, and Elizabeth. Thank you to my sponsors, HMONG TIMES, Cheu Lee and Cua Yaj.
I want to express my earnest gratitude to all of the support I received from the following ladies and gentle-men: Cy Thao and Lee Vang (CHAT), Richon Xiong (CHAT) and Chia Lee, Wang Sue Lee (Lauj Youth Society), Pang Yang (Lauj Youth Society), Yaj Ntxawg (Hmong Amer-ican Partnership), Vang Houa Thao (HAP), Steve Lo (HAP), Nouth, and the makeup artists at Herberger’s (Midway). Also, thank you to everyone else that I did not name; I have not forgotten you, I just do not have enough space. Every one of you has been my strength and motivation when I was uncertain and exhausted. Thank you for believing so strongly in my dreams with me.
How was the pageant? It depends on how you view it. And this is my perspective.
I am quite certain that the majority of the people believe the Miss Hmong MN pageant to be fraudulent. Year after year there have been accusations of cheating, unfair treatment, favoring one specific girl, etc. There even seem to have been times when the contestants have been in battle with one another due to this fear and assumption of cheating. I am not claiming that these frauds do not exist, since I am unfamiliar with the truth - but as one of the contestants in the Miss Hmong MN 2003 pageant; as second runner-up in the competition and as titleholder of the Miss Hmong Teen USA pageant; I would like to share with you my perspective on the pageant.
The most important component is what you, the contestant, would like to make out of the pageant. What do you hope to achieve? What do you hope to learn and gain? What is the significance of the pageant to you? Why do you decide to compete? The pageant will be a worthwhile and fulfilling experience if you believe it to be.
The exquisiteness of a beauty pageant highlights the loveliness of a young woman in various perspec-tives. Not only are the girls physically attractive, but also they have an appealing personality. Their talents, interests, hobbies, and dreams elicit the beauty in them. Each and every girl is special in her own unique ways. In addition, the beauty of a pageant extends to forming friendships, exchanging ideas, and appreciating one another. This is my belief of the beauty of pageantry.
Pageantry is an experience of team building, and self-evaluation. The challenge here is to be your best without putting anyone else down. It is the challenge of competing as a team, yet individually. Knowing yourself: your strengths and weaknesses, your interests, your goals, and your wisdom are the key to this competition.
My experience from the Miss Hmong MN 2003 pageant is exceptional and incomparable. The contestants in this pageant were extremely supportive, cooperative, and kind. We bonded! We had lots of laughing and goofing around! I think this pageant was worth it, because I made it worthwhile through my friendship with the con-testants.
During the crowning round, to be honest, when I was pronounced to be the second runner-up I immediately felt a deep disappointment in myself. However, my first reaction was neither anger nor hatred towards any one person, and it was not that this pageant was another typical unfair scheme. Actually, my first thought was that perhaps I did not do enough to put myself at a higher place.
Once I was backstage, I heard many different opinions. Much was said that the winner of this year’s pageant was pre-selected by the New Year Committee, she was favored and received full support from our assistant coordinator, and that she was personally trained by a woman well known for having helped contestants take first place.
That night, while I contem-plated my experience, I considered the opinions I had heard and I evaluated my individual performance. After thinking thoroughly, I had the option of accusing people of cheating, or of acknowledging that this young woman found resources in the community to help her obtain the title. I decided to go with my second state of mind.
Why? Because, I believe that the New Year Committee has an adequate measure of integrity to prevent unethical corruption. I recall that according to the guidelines of the pageant, there was nothing stating that a contestant could not obtain further training nor did the guidelines explicitly state that the contestant could not have someone else write her speech. After a great deal of reflection, I realized that the title-holder of Miss Hmong MN 2003 sought out the most well known woman to put her at the top. Although I do not know whether this woman was involved with the judges, it is my deepest hope that she did not persuade the judges to opt for the girl she trained.
Thus, some might say that the pageant is a fraud. However, from my exper-ience, I will stand with a different opinion. I would rather not assume that there was cheating, but instead recognize that Miss Hmong MN 2003 found the right resource to help her.
As a former contestant, I do recommend that every girl take the opportunity to participate in a pageant. With that, I will give future contestants a few sug-gestions from my experience.
• Be dedicated! That includes, putting lots of effort, time, and concentration on you. Entering a pageant requires a lot of time, and I mean a LOT of time, make sure you have the time.
• Have all your outfits and shoes ready - at the very latest, three weeks before the competition.
• About two weeks prior to the competition, test out your hair-dos and makeup with the exact people that you will be working with during the pageant.
• Have all your speeches and your talent show plan finalized three weeks before the competition, and continually rehearse them for three hours daily (two hours for talent and one hour for speech).
• Most importantly, find a personal trainer who will guide you through everything ranging from clothes to speeches. A personal trainer should be capable of putting you at the top, and it is not necessary but preferably, he/she has connection to someone on the New Year Committee.
• Finally, be certain that your biography is true and impressive.
There is a lot that a young woman must give to commit to a pageant. However, do not take easily what you might hear from others. Be bold, and do what you know is the best for you. And, if you should happen to not be placed, remember the unique beautiful individual that you are, but be open to admit and accept your mistakes and flaws, for that will be your only way to learn and improve.
Before I conclude, I would like to thank my fellow contestants for their support and encouragement, and their friendship. Thank you for making this pageant one of my most treasured experiences I will always have. I am grateful to have known each one of you. I hope you continue to strive to reach for your goal, because I believe you girls have the ability to go as far in life as you would like. Also, I give my sincere congratulations to Miss Mai Nou Yang as Miss Hmong MN 2003.
Oh, and if you are wondering whether I will compete again in the Miss Hmong MN or the Miss Hmong American pageants, my answer is: no, I will not compete again. This was my first time competing in the Miss Hmong MN pageant, but I personally do not like the idea of competing a couple of times before taking first place. I will take my place as second runner-up proudly, and pursue the rest of my dreams.
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