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Subject: PLEASE--I so need Spiritual Guidance, big time!

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Date Posted: 11:13:59 03/21/07 Wed

I need support, based on scripture, to help my husband.I've been a born again christian and bible reading christian for 12 years. I'm really concerned about my husband. He gave everything up in his life---his full time job 2 years ago--to go into business with a wealthy friend of 15 years/and a fellow christian. The idea was to make money, but to also do some charity work for the local church. My husband gave it his all, for two years. His partner was very generous with the church, essentially giving them the houses my husband secured and rebuilt. We trusted the partner fully, and our name is not on any paperwork. Since we were doing so much for the church, we didnt feel it was necessary to get signatures. A person's word is their bond, right? Even when my husband made profits, they went to help fix up the homes for the church. Much of what was paid for, in hindsight was very luxurious---expensive fences, flooring, the best in new kitchen aids and products, custom closets, sunk in tubs..In the end, after two years, suddenly the partner says, "Gee, I have really spent too much, havent I?" We never said anything, thinking..."Give and it shall be given to you." Our ten year old son even said, "Daddy, why are you are your partner doing everything for free? Where is the profit?" All we got for our labors were our basic bills paid, nothing special. Now, in an attempt to save money, the partner has told my husband he has no more money. My husband is literally having a nervous breakdown. He gave up his full time job. He feels like a fool. He was giving to God, wasnt he? The partner is still paying for the elder, and his wife and family... rent, everything, to live there, though. We arent even asking for half of the house...just a little help. Our son, who we're trying to bring up as a good Christian, looks at us like we are fools. I want to trust God and I do, but, how do you reconcile people who you feel are doing things for God, and stealing from you? What should I do to help my husband? Is it right that the elders are living high on the hog, and we cannot pay our rent next month? We are both trying to get more work. My husband is trying to get his old job back. Should I be quiet, as I have been these past few years as I saw all this go on, or should I tell someone from the church what is happening? I love his partner, but he should not be seen as someone who "gives" and is "Wonderful" if he is truly hurting and stealing from another person, another christian. My husband feels like everyone is laughing at him. Is this the devil? Is this what giving to the church is all about? When and how do you calmly stand up for your own rights? Can someone please, give me scriptural advice? Should I talk to the partner? My husband is really sick--I dont know if at his age he can get over this. He gave up everything, thinking he was doing the right thing. I know I'll never be rich, but I dont want to wind up living in my car, either.

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