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Subject: Different types of abuse


Author:
Aubrey
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Date Posted: 10/30/04 11:14:08am

What are some of the different types of abuse?
[> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
Lindsey
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Date Posted: 11/10/04 4:25:03pm

>What are some of the different types of abuse?
I know that there is verbal and physical abuse but that's all that I know of.
[> [> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
Aubrey
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Date Posted: 11/13/04 9:38:40am

>>What are some of the different types of abuse?
> I know that there is verbal and physical abuse but
>that's all that I know of.

That's right. Verbal abuse is usally present with emotional abuse. There is also sexual abuse. Can anyone give any examples of any of these types of abuse?
[> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 11/12/04 1:53:12pm

>What are some of the different types of abuse?

mental
physical
spousal
child
[> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 11/12/04 1:54:34pm

>What are some of the different types of abuse?

I know there is mental abuse, physical, sexually,verbal.
[> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
kari
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Date Posted: 01/26/05 9:37:20am

>What are some of the different types of abuse?
there is mental abuse,physical abuse,sexual abuse, financial abuse, verbal abuse, child abuse, abuse against women, and dont forget that there are som men who are victims of abuse their selves
[> [> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
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Date Posted: 05/ 4/07 12:37:19am

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[> Subject: Re: Different types of abuse


Author:
Crystal (Thoughtful)
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Date Posted: 01/18/07 10:57:15am

>What are some of the different types of abuse?

I have been working on an assignment and I have come up with MANY different types. It can be Domestic which include the Sexual Physical and Mental/Physicological Abuse. Then there is Verbal abuses which goes hand in hand with emotional abuse..Spousal, Children, Elderly, Neglect, relationships, Animal all go together. Spiritual, Ritualistic, Power abuses, Financial...it can also turn and there is drug Abuse, Alcohol abuses which are substance abuses.
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Author:
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Date Posted: 12/ 3/06 4:56:32am

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Subject: What defines comittment?


Author:
Nancy (Unsure)
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Date Posted: 09/18/06 12:35:14pm

I am a grown woman, divorced, with two kids. I am real confused about what defines a comitted relationship. I assumed that when two people choose to mutually comitt to only each other, that partnership entails full disclosure at all times.

What I mean by that is....there should be no secrets and if one partner feels uneasy because the other person is choosing to be VERY discreet in what they do and who they see, then is that acceptable?

I am not married, but I am with a man who claims to want to marry me in the near future. The problem is that I have issues with trust from my past relationships and I put all of that out on the table 6 months ago, when we first met. Basically to allow him to fully understand where I come from and why I have certain insecurities that may need certain extra efforts to put me at ease. I would think that when you love someone, you will do all it takes to keep peace and comfort in the relationship, right?

My boyfriend feels I ask too many questions. We practically live together and we see each other almost every day. When he chooses to do something without me, instead of telling me where he is going or with whom, he simply tells me with little to no notice, that he has plans. If I ask, with whome or where are you going...he responds with either, "You ask too many questions" or I'm going out with a friend or with friends. If I push for more informtaion, I am told, "You are not my mother!"

This is not acceptable to me. I feel he is totally disrespecting me and instead of helping me with my insecurities he feeds them very negatively. We have calmly discused how his secrets and lack of information make me feel and yet he continues to show me that he doesn't really care.

So, with all of that said, am I being overly sensitive by getting so hurt and angry at him for not freely being able to tell me where he goes or with whom? I think it is a matter of respect when you are in a comitted relationship, that you have no problems sharing with your partner where you go and with whom. I do not call and bother my boyfriend when he is out without me, I do not check up on him or any of that. I simply request that he tells me where he is going and with whom, instead of being so discreet and making me wonder. He has a ton of female "friends" abd he feels that is none of my business and should be no threat to me. Any thouights on this would be so appreciated. I love this man and I am seriously questioning staying with him.
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Author:
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Date Posted: 07/ 5/06 5:35:16pm

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Subject: HACK +CRACK+YAHOO+HOTMAIL+MSN+PASSWORDS


Author:
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Date Posted: 07/ 5/06 5:28:33pm

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Subject: My boyfriend is abusive


Author:
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Date Posted: 05/ 1/06 9:46:43am

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Subject: HACK AOL®, YAHOO® , HOTMAIL® ,GMAIL, PASSWORDS !!


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Author:
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Date Posted: 11/ 5/05 9:37:36am

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Subject: PLEASE GET OUT WHITE TRESSPASSERS


Author:
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 9:19:06pm

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Subject: Easy way to hack crack Yahoo password


Author:
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Date Posted: 07/ 8/05 3:26:42pm

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Subject: How to hack yahoo password


Author:
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Date Posted: 07/ 8/05 3:12:10pm

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Subject: Re Warning signs of abuse


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 12/10/04 2:18:21am

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Subject: What do you think?


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 10/19/04 9:57:27am

What do you think of when you hear the word abuse?
[> Subject: Re: What do you think?


Author:
Lindsey
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Date Posted: 11/10/04 4:28:06pm

>What do you think of when you hear the word abuse?
I think of somebody being very controlling in a bad way and won't let the other person have their freedom to do what they wish.
[> Subject: Re: What do you think?


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 11/12/04 1:51:19pm

>What do you think of when you hear the word abuse?

When i hear the word abuse i think of a man coming home and beating his wife becuase he's drunk and mad.

I also think of a boyfriend hiting his girlfriend because she won't do anything with him sexually.
[> [> Subject: Re: What do you think?


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 11/12/04 1:52:42pm

>>What do you think of when you hear the word abuse?
>
>When i hear the word abuse i think of a man coming
>home and beating his wife becuase he's drunk and mad.
>
>I also think of a boyfriend hiting his girlfriend
>because she won't do anything with him sexually.
[> [> Subject: Re: What do you think?


Author:
Aubrey
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Date Posted: 11/13/04 9:40:20am

>>What do you think of when you hear the word abuse?
>
>When i hear the word abuse i think of a man coming
>home and beating his wife becuase he's drunk and mad.
>
>I also think of a boyfriend hiting his girlfriend
>because she won't do anything with him sexually.

Why would a woman want to be with someone like this?
[> [> [> Subject: Re: What do you think?


Author:
A.D.
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Date Posted: 12/ 6/04 1:57:11pm

I used to think of a woman with a black eye, who obviously lived in a trailer park and probably dropped out of high school. Then one day I found myself in an abusive relationship, but that wasn't possible, I come from a wealthy church going family, I have a college degree and my husband comes from a wealthy family. I've never had a black eye either. I very rarely had bruises and when I did get a bruise, it was usually nickel sized on my upper arms from being grabbed or restrained. I was only hit a few times and never with a closed fist. Mostly I was just pushed into the wall, called names and questioned for hours at a time about my fidelity. If there is one thing that I could tell every woman out there it is that abuse does not know socio-economic boundaries and it does not care, it does not care if you are wealthy, Christian, or educated, white or black, it can happen to anyone.
[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: What do you think?


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 12/ 6/04 1:58:18pm

>I used to think of a woman with a black eye, who
>obviously lived in a trailer park and probably dropped
>out of high school. Then one day I found myself in an
>abusive relationship, but that wasn't possible, I come
>from a wealthy church going family, I have a college
>degree and my husband comes from a wealthy family.
>I've never had a black eye either. I very rarely had
>bruises and when I did get a bruise, it was usually
>nickel sized on my upper arms from being grabbed or
>restrained. I was only hit a few times and never with
>a closed fist. Mostly I was just pushed into the
>wall, called names and questioned for hours at a time
>about my fidelity. If there is one thing that I could
>tell every woman out there it is that abuse does not
>know socio-economic boundaries and it does not care,
>it does not care if you are wealthy, Christian, or
>educated, white or black, it can happen to anyone.
Subject: ways to heal from abuse


Author:
becky
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:54:07pm

Learn that you are not alone!

Express your anger and your outrage!
-get a counselor
-join a group
-write your story (let others know that it happened to you and can happen to them)
-talk about it as much as you can, to people you trust, don't be ashamed of it, because it is not your fault, don't feel that you must keep it a secret
[> Subject: Re: ways to heal from abuse


Author:
A.D.
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Date Posted: 12/ 6/04 12:38:43pm

>I think what you have here is very good, however, I would warn against constantly expressing anger and outrage and talking about it "as much as you can." It has been my experience that if I dwell on it more than I take action, it just festers up inside me. My husband and I are still togethor and we are trying to make things work, so for me, the more I dwell on the past the worse the present is. Another suggestion I have is to get involved in the fight against domestic violence, help others get out of it, help them learn from your experience, action is theraputic.



Learn that you are not alone!
>
>Express your anger and your outrage!
>-get a counselor
>-join a group
>-write your story (let others know that it happened to
>you and can happen to them)
>-talk about it as much as you can, to people you
>trust, don't be ashamed of it, because it is not your
>fault, don't feel that you must keep it a secret
Subject: Quiz on Relationship


Author:
becky
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 11:01:02pm

comment on this quiz:
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Subject: Four Warning Signs for Relationships


Author:
becky
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:58:04pm

Withdrawal and avoidance
Invalidation
Negative interpretations
Escalation
Subject: abuse


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:46:49pm

check this website out...
it gives a lot of interesting information on abuse

http://www.toddlertime.com/abuse/what-is-abuse.htm
Subject: Five Ways to Eliminate Domestic Violence


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:44:00pm

Five Ways to Eliminate Domestic Violence

1. Know What Domestic Violence Is.

When spouses, intimate partners, or dates use physical violence, threats, emotional abuse, harassment, or stalking to control the behavior of their partners, they are committing domestic violence. Most victims of domestic violence are women. Children who witness domestic violence are also victims; they suffer from behavioral and cognitive problems. Boys, especially, are more likely to be aggressive and engage in criminal behavior if they grow up in homes where domestic violence exists.

2. Develop A Safety Plan.

If you, a relative, a friend, or a neighbor are experiencing domestic violence, think about ways to make yourself safer. Leave a spare set of keys, emergency money, important phone numbers, and documents like birth certificates, passports, bankbooks, and insurance papers in a safe place your batterer doesn't know about, for example, with a trusted friend or relative. Plan how to get out of your home quickly and safely, should a battering incident begin. Think about a safe place to go to once you leave your home. If you can, learn local crisis hotline numbers, so that you can call for advice or assistance.

3. Call 911.

If you are being battered -- or you know that a relative, friend, or neighbor is being battered by a spouse or intimate partner -- call the police right away for help, if you can get to a phone safely. Don't be afraid to ask for immediate help. Domestic violence is a crime, not a "private family matter."

4. Exercise Your Legal Rights.

You -- or anyone else experiencing domestic violence -- have the right to go to court and petition for an order of protection if you have been battered in one of the fifty states, Puerto Rico, and the District of Columbia. In most parts of the country, you can also ask for custody of your children and child support at the same time. You should try to get a lawyer to represent you and protect all of your rights under the law. Call your state or local coalition against domestic violence, a state or local crisis hotline, or the state or local bar association to learn more about where to find legal help.

5. Get Help For Your Family So That The Violence Will Stop.

There are many services available to help families struggling with domestic violence. Look in the phone book for the number of your state or local domestic violence coalition or crisis hotline for help in locating the financial, housing, and counseling services needed to break free of domestic violence.
Subject: improving relationships


Author:
becky
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:40:54pm

most experts suggest that good communication and love go a long way in improving relationships among most couples....

communication creates long lasting bonds and mutual trust and understanding...also helps in improving the level of acceptance regarding each other’s personalities and habits...
Subject: forms of abuse


Author:
becky
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:36:51pm

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Subject: Important Facts About Relationship Violence


Author:
becky
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Date Posted: 12/ 4/04 10:33:25pm

Important Facts About Relationship Violence:

* It is now estimated that at least one out three high school and college-aged youth experience abuse at some point in their relationships. It can range from a single episode to chronic abuse.

* Only 20% of violent crimes are perpetrated by strangers. Half are committed by the person's partner.

* Battering is the single major cause of injury to women …more than injuries caused by muggings, rape, and car accidents combined. It is the second leading cause of death to women age twenty to forty-five.

* U.S. businesses are estimated to lose about $5 million each year due to abuse-related absenteeism.

* An abusive incident rarely occurs only once, abuse usually increases in frequency and severity over time.

* Chronic abusers display a typical pattern following physical abuse episodes. They tend to be apologetic, …on their best behavior, …promising that it will never happen again. This is usually exactly the behavior the victim has hoped for and often causes her to decide to remain in the relationship.

* Repeated abusers almost never change their abusive responses spontaneously. It is not the victim's job to change this aspect of his personality. He must seek professional assistance if he is to change.

* Victims of especially severe abuse often "identify with the abuser" in order to survive. This means she will actually begin to agree with the criticisms and perspectives of the abuser while her own personality, opinions, and views fade to the background. This is a serious set of psychological events called the "Stockholm Syndrome."
Subject: Signs of a healthy relationship


Author:
Aubrey
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Date Posted: 10/30/04 11:16:52am

What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?
[> Subject: Re: Signs of a healthy relationship


Author:
Lindsey
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Date Posted: 11/10/04 4:13:49pm

>What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?

I think that some signs of a healthy relationship are comfort, communication, and feelings.
Comfort I think is one of the most important in a relationship. If you aren't comfortable with your bf/gf, fiance, or spouse, then why be with them at all. If you aren't allowing yourself to be you and your portraying somebody you really aren't, then you shouldn't be with that certain somebody(c/s). Why pretend when the real you is so much better than putting on a show. And if you are comfortable with the c/s you can talk to them about problems or issues.
Communication is another important factor in a relationship. Being able to talk with the c/s kind of goes hand in hand with comfort. Being able to talk about things without the fear of him/her looking down upon you or the fear of him/her beating you up or even making fun of you.
The last key is feelings. You are the only person in the world that knows you best. You need to know the difference between true-love, just a fling, just for show, or possibly something else. You also need to talk with your c/s to see what they feel and how far he/she might want to go, or might not want to go.
There are many other things that a realationship needs but I feel that those are a few of the most important.
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Author:
Aubrey
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Date Posted: 11/13/04 9:30:00am

>>What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?
>
> I think that some signs of a healthy relationship
>are comfort, communication, and feelings.
> Comfort I think is one of the most important in a
>relationship. If you aren't comfortable with your
>bf/gf, fiance, or spouse, then why be with them at
>all. If you aren't allowing yourself to be you and
>your portraying somebody you really aren't, then you
>shouldn't be with that certain somebody(c/s). Why
>pretend when the real you is so much better than
>putting on a show. And if you are comfortable with
>the c/s you can talk to them about problems or issues.
> Communication is another important factor in a
>relationship. Being able to talk with the c/s kind of
>goes hand in hand with comfort. Being able to talk
>about things without the fear of him/her looking down
>upon you or the fear of him/her beating you up or even
>making fun of you.
> The last key is feelings. You are the only person
>in the world that knows you best. You need to know
>the difference between true-love, just a fling, just
>for show, or possibly something else. You also need
>to talk with your c/s to see what they feel and how
>far he/she might want to go, or might not want to go.
> There are many other things that a realationship
>needs but I feel that those are a few of the most
>important.

Lindsey,

Great response! Yes, feeling comfort, communication and feelings are all very important in a relationship! What are some specific examples of how someone might communicate to you in a HEALTHY way?
[> Subject: Re: Signs of a healthy relationship


Author:
No name
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Date Posted: 11/12/04 1:57:41pm

>What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?

I think that when you see a couple together and they are comfortable with being around each other that it shows it's a healthy relationship.
A couple that can tolerate each other for more thank an hour or so and tend to enjoy doing stuff together.
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Author:
Aubrey
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Date Posted: 11/13/04 9:31:59am

>>What are some of the signs of a healthy relationship?
>
>I think that when you see a couple together and they
>are comfortable with being around each other that it
>shows it's a healthy relationship.
>A couple that can tolerate each other for more thank
>an hour or so and tend to enjoy doing stuff together.

What are some signs of couples being comfortable around each other?
Subject: Warning signs of abuse


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Date Posted: 10/18/04 7:22:44pm

What are some of the warning sings of abuse?
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