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Subject: >;-) Re: just wanted to say hi!

Author: rach

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 20:19:06 11/09/05 Wed In reply to: Mary 's message, "Re: just wanted to say hi!" on 23:40:36 11/05/05 Sat Hi Mary-- How are you holding up?? me? doing well. my friends are helping me make plans for the holidays. My boyfriend and i are going to his aunt's houses of thanksgiving. christmas at his parents's house. the only thing i'm having a problem with is not being able to see my parents. i'll keep in touch. hope everyone is doing well. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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Author: Mary [ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 10:49:48 11/12/05 Sat Rach, It is good that you will be with your boyfriend and his family during the holidays. Yes, it will be difficult not to see your parents, but being with people that care about you is important. I appreciate you asking about my, this time of year is the busiest time in my business...So, fortunately I have little time to dwell on the loss of my brother or sister. My partner and I spent the first 3 holidays with my parents after my brother's death. It was actually not a good thing, as everyone was grieving in their own way and it caused some clashes. Some of us wanted to talk about Carroll and others could not bear to even hear his name. The toughest time for me is usually when my business slows down and I have time to think. Each year, I vow not to let it get to me, but usually my feelings emerge between Christmas and New Year's eve. Time has helped me to heal, but I still have moments of deep sadness for the loss of both of them. Rach, be good to yourself during the holidays and patient with your feelings as they emerge, too. Unless people have experienced the loss of a sibling, they may not be able to comprehend what you are going through. Thank goodness for Pleasant and her website message board, where we can communicate with others that can relate. take care, Mary