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Subject: :~( The Lost of My ONLY Brother

Author: Lori Jensen

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 20:47:51 11/21/05 Mon It has been almost three years since I have lost my only brother to a car accident and I still can not seem to get back into like. Three weeks after my first back surgery, my brother was killed in a one car accident. with in this same year I had to have two more back surgeries and I was petrified that some one else was going to die, I know this sounds crazy but every time I had a surgery someone died. My brother, Robert Aaron Jensen was my whole life he was ther when my parents brought me home from the hospital. Just so there wouldn't be a jelousy my parents gave me to him to always look over me. Now I feel like I failed at looking out for him. MY BROTHER WAS MY WHOLE WORLD AND NOW THAT HE IS GONE I DON'T LIKE LIFE AND HE WAS ALWAYS SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR ME. Especialy when our parents passaway. Neither of us have children and now I feel all alone. I feel as if I'm going to loose contorl at anytime. I loved him more than I love myself. I'm afraid that I'm going to end up in a mental institution if something dosen't change. I know that March 24, 2002 is just short of three years ago, but it seems like it was just yesterday for me, I have not been able to go back to work because I'm not the same person I was, I was very out going and now I've become VERY bitter!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANY MORE AND I CAN'T FIND ANY SUPPORT GROUPS TO HELP ME. Thanks for you time and consideration, for a broken hearted nobody. Lori Jensen [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: The Lost of My ONLY Brother

Author: Dana [ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 06:00:57 11/22/05 Tue Dear Lori, I am sorry for the loss of your beloved brother who meant so much to you. Three years is not a long time, but it does sound like you need more help in recovering from this. I had to see a doctor and take medicine when my brother died in a car accident because it made me get depressed. Then I went to a Compassionate Friends group that I found on this site on the support page. That really helped and I made some friends there. Have you tried that? I know it seems like yesterday--I feel like that too sometimes. And having surgery makes it so much worse--that alone is enoug to make someone feel terrible. I hope you will talk to your doctor and let us know what happens.

[> [> Subject: :~( Re: The Lost of My ONLY Brother

Author: No name [ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 12:44:55 11/22/05 Tue I am sorry for your loss,Lori. My son lost his only brother.and will be alone...sad indeed.the reality in a 'time-space-continnum',is that one never ever forgets,and 'time' is irrevelant(in 'ones' memory. A therapist was helpful for me insofar as helping mom and my son,and seeking the truth in what had Actually happened. My advice I can only offer in words is to seek out a therapist that will help you cope w/your reality,and I pray it will help you.:( amen