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] Date Posted: 16:48:03 02/21/05 Mon My big brother just passed away on Sept 30, 2004, I can't deal with it. I keep it together for my parents. Then behind closed doors I breakdown. I'm so hard headed, just like he was. There's times that i just don't believe he gone. I feel that he is on a car trip or at work. We worked on our cars together and he taught me new things. It's only been 4 months and it feels as if he never was. I don't want to feel that way. My friends sometimes don't want to talk about it because they feel it will upset me, but I try to explain to them that i want to talk about him. I may start to cry, but I don't want to forget him. My parents are going to some meetings where there are other parents have lost a child and they told me that there are meetings for sibling too. I haven't gone to any yet..I think it will help at least they know what i'm going through. I just want to see how the chatrooms and online things worked, incase i couldn't make the meeting. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: PLeasant [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 08:49:35 02/22/05 Tue Hi Jessie, I am so sorry about your brother's death. Those words are not adequate for the loss, I know but I never really know what to say. Your grief is still very fresh. You didn't say how he died, or if you had any warning, but in either case, I highly recommend going to the sibling group if you possibly can. Meeting other bereaved siblings is a big part of the healing process. I hope you will write back and tell us more about your brother. Meanwhile, please do go to the meetings and let us know how you are doing. |
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Author: No name [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 16:51:46 02/22/05 Tue My brother Brian was killed in a motorcycle accident. He collided with a tractor trailer. He died instantly. He was only 24 and has a 5 year old daughter. He had so much going for him. He had been laid off work for about 6 months and found a great job with a company called VAST. He loved it. You did have a time to punch in just as long as you were there by 12 noon. If you got your job done you could leave. It was perfect for him. The whole reason he got the motorcycle was because he was having some problems with his car and it ended up dying on him..so he bought the bike. My dad tells me that he may think that Brian knew he was going. The weekend before he went to see my brother down at school, I got to hang out with him the night before he died, and the morning of the day he died he gave my dad a kiss on the forehead, told my mom he loved her and went to see his daughter before she left for school. It's almost as if he made sure he had everyone covered. I don't know if people can sense those things or not. But there are some thing that I think about all the time. I was the first person to know about his accident(I was home alone), I was the last person to hang out with him and the last thing I said was "I love you,Brian, Good Night." and I was the last one to see him go. I stayed after at the cemetry to see him lower down.I had to tell my mom, brother and his friends. The only person I didn't have to tell was my dad. I'm only 20 and that feels like a lot of weight on my shoulder. I just want to know why I was chosen for that. Was that to show me that I'm going to have to be the strong one through this for my family. I just don't know. I miss him so much. God Bless to all of you. |
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Author: Pleasant [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 05:37:27 02/23/05 Wed It is so hard when your brother died so suddenly, but I am glad that you got to tell him that you love him and that he did check in with each of you before the accident. It sounds like his life was turning around and going well. You are very young to have to experience such a task--that of being the one who tells people the terrible news. It makes you wonder why it was you and not someone else. You may feel that you have to be the strong one, but it's important that you take care of yourself and not just other people. I hope you will write back and tell us more about yourself. We have all experienced the death of a brother or sister and do understand. Take care. |
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