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] Date Posted: 21:19:53 02/27/06 Mon Hello, My sister died from cancer six months ago--leaving three little kids--the oldest was 6. By the time they discovered her cancer it was already so far gone, they couldn't even operate. what is bothering me now is her husband and they way he acted before she died and now. At first I was stunned but now I am angry--he didn't even have the decency to stay with her when she was dying. It makes me so mad I could spit! I don't knowfor sure but I think he may have actually been seeing someone when she was sick. It makes it so hard for me to be nice to him when I visit the kids. I can't stop venting about this and I'm afraid my husband will get tired of it. I don't know what to do about this. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Jason [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 05:55:50 03/01/06 Wed My brother and your sister must have died about the same time. It is terrible to watch their kids--I do know what you mean about that. My brother had just one little girl and she is so confused and doesn't know what is going on. It sounds like you are pretty mad--maybe that is your way of functioning now. What makes me mad is not having a definite diagnosis--if only we could give a name to what killed him. I hat e to say this but what if someone else gets it too? I guess we just have to live with all these feelings that we can't do anything about. I just wish I could DO something! |
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Author: No name [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 17:50:56 04/03/06 Mon Dear Traci... I too have lost a sister to cancer. 9 monthe aco. She also has left behind 3 young kids and a husband. He too acted in a way that infuriated me and continues to do so. The day of her death when my mother called from the hospital to say he should come there quickly he replied that he will finish breakfast and then come. A week prior to her death when the doctors suggested stopping treatment he toyed with the idea of just letting her go and when they suggested she have limited vivitors I together with my other sister and father were on the list of those to not be allowed to see her. I flew off the handle and called him everything imaginable under the sun. In the final moments of her life he ordered everyone to leave her side and yelled obscenities. My father father, sister in law and my sisters best friend all fainted. I am an ambulance officer so I was expected to cope with the whole process and the aftermath. Now I am crumbling. I do not trust me husband. I think he too will act like my brother in law. I wander why I work so hard like my sister (she was a nurse) when I too will probably die at 37. |
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Author: Pleasant [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 15:13:42 04/06/06 Thu It is almost unfathomable when people behave in this way --This is denial at its most rigid. I am so sorry that you had this experience. You wonder whether your husband will be like this too and whether you too will die young. Please know that 9 months is not a long time and eventually you will feel better and the anger will become less intense. I am glad that you wrote to us and hope you will let us know how you are doing. |
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