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Subject: Re: Does this make any sense?

Author: Mary

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 17:37:38 05/23/05 Mon In reply to: 's message, "Does this make any sense?" on 08:05:12 05/23/05 Mon Hi, Sounds like you need to stop the world for a short time and find someone to talk to about your feelings. Some of your behaviors and acting out are signs of grief that you have not dealt with. It is important to find someone that will listen and help you through this time in your life. Many of us also felt that our siblings were better and feel guilty about being the ones that are still here. Please reach out to someone and let me know how you are doing. Take care of yourself, Mary [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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Author: No name [ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 01:32:46 05/24/05 Tue Hi Mary Thanks for your help. I have been in counselling for the past year and i have my good days and my bad days. But i feel guilty whenever i get any reason for feeling real happiness and that is followed by some sort of self destructive behaviour. There is some part of me that feels panicky during the better days in life because i think i might actually end up forgetting my brother. i am trying hard to live .....its just so difficult and i miss him so much. Thanks once again

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Author: Mary [ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 18:20:43 05/26/05 Thu Yes, I remember the few good days along with many bad ones after losing my sister and then my brother. My sister died when I was young over 30 years ago and my brother died over six years ago. Now I have mostly good days, but I do still have flashes of grief at times like their birthdays and death days. Trust me, you will never forget your brother. It is hard not to feel guilty when you are having a good day and then remember that he is gone. Please remember that your brother would want you to be happy. It takes time to be okay, but keep seeing someone. Talking about your loss will help you. Write again when you feel like it and let me know how you are doing. Mary

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Author: Jo Jo [ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 14:26:44 05/01/06 Mon I totally understand what you are going through. On Jan 2,2000. I lost my older sister suddenly she was only 26 years old. I also lost my brother Feb 2, 2006 suddenly. I have ok days and real bad days. The police still don't know if it was suicide or murder for my brother. My son is 5 will be 6 in july he is having nighmares about his uncle, he never got to meet his aunt. When something does seem to go good in my life i feel guilty if i actually allow myself to enjoy it. I just try to put my faith in God and ask for his help EVERYDAY!!