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Date Posted: 22:48:16 07/01/05 Fri
I lost my brother on May 9th if this year and I do not know how to deal with it. I really have not cried I have not even begun to grieve and I am doing alot of blaming myself. Can someone please help me, let me know how long this takes, and what the steps are??
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Date Posted: 18:29:10 07/02/05 Sat
It has only been a very short time since you lost your brother. Sometimes when people are not able to handle something emotionally they feel numb. Also, many of us blame ourselves for our sibling's death at first. We think that if only we had called them, if we had stopped them from getting into that car, or maybe if we had just prayed a little harder. Sometimes because we have quarreled with them in the past we feel responsible. There are a million reasons to feel guilty and non of them make us responsible.
Also, there are different steps towards healing for most of us. There is not right way to grieve, but for most of us talking to others and reaching out has helped. But for some people it hurts to talk to others. Many of us search the web or read books that sometimes help. Many of us stay in touch here and that seems to help; knowing other people that understand. Hope this helps you, Crissie. Please write back and let me know how you are doing.
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