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Subject: Re: sibling death during childhood

Author: Mary

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 08:26:44 09/23/05 Fri In reply to: 's message, "Re: sibling death during childhood" on 19:18:17 09/14/05 Wed Hi Mary, Thanks for your reply. I've been working hard over the past few years to "process" my grief, and have missed an important step. By simply trying to "deal" with and "address" this loss, I kept it at an intellectual level and forgot to tell myself that it was "OK" to feel the pain associated with it. As odd as that sounds, I've been really hard on myself and have engaged in a lot of negative self- talk (e.Why can't I get over this? Why can't I deal with this?). I believe this has been a unconscious form of resisting the goal I was trying to achieve.(Perhaps survivor guilt...anxiety keeps me connected to the pain of losing her). I know I have more work to do and that only I can do it. However, I can't underestimate the power of connecting with people who have had the experience of losing a sibling. It will continue to be an important part of the healing process. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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Author: emma (thinking) [Edit]

Date Posted: 12:09:08 02/09/07 Fri I lost my beautiful brother 2 years ago in a car accident. he was only 17 and being 13 years older than him i was some what of a second mum to him. His death distroyed my family, but at the same time it brought us closer. My family has also had to go throgh a court trial over his death meaning that we've had to replay what our emotions were over and over again. my mother has gone to so many psychics trying to reach my brother. Sadly i do think that its the only connection that she has got with her son. But some think good allways comes out of some thing bad i have learnt so much a a person and i'm training to be a nurse, i want to help save a life of some one in the same situation as my brother because then he would not of died in vain and i would think that it would of all been worth the pain. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]