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Subject: Re: Help

Author: crystina

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 14:35:55 02/03/06 Fri In reply to: 's message, "Help" on 21:41:46 01/05/06 Thu Hello, I want you to know that there is someone else out there in your situation. Me. I had a 4 year old brother who a couple years ago became infected with Leukemia very quickly and passed on within a week of its spreading. It was sudden and tragic and shocking most of all. I will never forget the way I felt that year. I was entering my sophomore year of high school and going to school everyday was horrible for me. No one really knew what had happened so it was so easy for them to laugh and be happy and go on like nothing had happened. My family was broken at home. No one talked, no one smiled, none of us grieved together. I was very much alone in getting through this, so you can imagine what it was like. I remember for one week straight I actually didn't move from the couch, I just layed there staring out the window wondering if the world outside was actually real or if I was imagining everything that had happened. My brother was a very special child, like you've said with your younger sibling, he was beautiful and full of intelligence. It seemed like he'd had it all accomplished by the age of 4. I felt like I was supposed to protect him from the world, yet show him everything at the same time. I also felt like I had helped raise him. It was so hard for me to BELIEVE what had happened. As the year went on, I really leaned on my friends for support. There came a point where I wanted to remember him without crying. I know there is nothing that can bring him back, so all I can do is remember his memory and do the things I knew he would have loved to see me do. My brother was going to grow up to to great things and he always wanted me right there, he wouldnt have wanted me to sit and mope and be depressed. Its so easy to sit and cry, and feel lonely and unhappy. But I realized that my life has to go on, it taught me to value everyday and not waste a moment bc we don't know when our last will be. I am a senior now, and although I may not completely understand or want to believe he is gone, I know that I have to keep living and breathing. Don't hold back on your senior year of highschool. You are going to make wonderful memories of your own, and your little brother will be watching all along. Think of him as your guardian angel. Your friends will be by your side and don't ever be afraid to cry. Tears come along with the grief, its okay to cry sometimes bc we all get a little to full :) I hope this helped, I always wished I had someone to talk to when my brother passed on.. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Help

Author: Miranda-Lyn [Edit]

Date Posted: 03:02:05 05/28/06 Sun I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. I lost my brother at the age of 6, and am now 20. I may not know exactly what your going through, but I have a pretty good idea. I lived in denial of my brothers death until I was about 12. From there on out my life went into a downward spiral. I started drugs and drinking and after my first year of highschool I dropped out. I too lost my ambition for life. Unfortunitly the pain will never go away, but you will learn to cope. It takes time, and its a hard painful road, I'm not going to lie to you. But with the support of your loved ones you will find ways to redirect that anger and pain. Trust me its hard dealing with the grief and loss of a sibling while trying to find your self, in an already tough time in your life. Everyone experiences greif in their own way so its hard to give advice in this type of situation. Please feel free to email me any time. Being a teenager going through grief is something I know all to well. Whats helped me is knowing that My brother always looked out for me and wanted me to succeed. Your brother will ALWAYS be with you in EVERYTHING that you do, and he will always be a part of you hun. Remember that he would want you to succeed. But most of all give it time. So Scream and cry journal, talk to someoneand do what ever helps you cope, because the worst thing you could do is bottle it up in side. I'm hear if you need to chat... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]