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] Date Posted: 12:14:31 08/14/06 Mon I lost my younger brother 15 weeks ago. He died two weeks before his 29th birthday. He was driving home from work and fell asleep at the wheel and was killed instantly. My brother was not only my baby brother, but my BEST FRIEND. And I was his, we were two peas in a pod. Did not live in the same towns, but talked all the time and when we were together we were glued. He knew me better than anyone, better than I know myself. When he died I lost a huge piece of myself, almost as if I had died with him. I have three kids...my 9 year old son was named after him and I have 15month old twin girls. I struggle everyday to remain grounded as a mom and a wife and I can't seem to find my footing. I just want to curl up and cry all the time. My son (whom he was also very close) has a hard time with it as well, especially when he sees me lose it. I struggle with finding the right words to comfort him when I myself can not find a way to move forward. I have a younger sister as well and we were all close, but sometimes I have a hard time even connecting with her as our relationship with our brother was so very different. He was not supposed to die (especially not before me) and he was at the top of his game...everything was happening for him and he was SO HAPPY for the first time in his life he was IN LOVE and getting ready to start a grown up life. It is just so hard to deal with and I struggle with my faith daily. Anyway, I hope someone has words of wisdom for me...Thank you for listening! [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Stephen (Numb) [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 17:21:49 08/14/06 Mon Hi, I'm writing because today mark's my little brother's 18th birthday. He passed away from complications (we think) with his Diabetes (Type 1) several weeks ago, on July 25th. I'm 29, and it's really difficult for me to accept that he's gone. I had such high expectations for growing old with him. Today also marked the beginning of his Senior year in High School. It's hard to cry or do anything but just stare a lot into nothingness. Anyway, we're still waiting for the autopsy, biopsy, and toxo reports to come back. I hate waiting to know why he died so young. All he wanted was love. We were so close. My brother was born on August 14, 1988, premature, weighing only 1 lbs and 12 ounces. He fought so hard to even make it into this world, and then suddenly he's just gone. Poof! Please pray for me, my wife, and our families as we struggle through this loss. Also, if you want to know more, I revamped my MySpace as a memorial for him: www.myspace.com/bullsharkdiver Take care, Stephen [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Ralph [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 20:36:17 08/15/06 Tue Hello, I understand where you are coming from--my brother died last year and we were not exactly sure of the cause of death for some time after he died. I'm a little older than you--35--but it was the first time I had ever experienced death and it blew me away. However, I was surprised to wake up one day and realize that I could go on living without him. Give yourself time to absorb the shock, treat yourself for right now like you are physically sick, and take care of your physical being--get exercise, eat right, don't drink or try to kill the pain--it just prolongs it. Good luck, Stephen--Keep in touch! [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: johnnys sissy [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 06:28:04 10/20/06 Fri I have been looking at sibling grieving sites and reading posts all morning. I lost my baby brother{32} on june29,2006. I swear sometimes it feels like I'm the only one who lost a brother, a best friend, and a child all at once. He was the one male in my life I knew to be a constant. He and I shared the same heart it seemed. He was the one I would call to deal with this and he isn't here. The events that lead up to his passing are still very confusing to me. I know why it happened, I just can't believe it still. I have a son who acts and looks similar and it is hard to hear his voice{sounds like my bro} and not think of that. I miss him so much...I cry at least once everyday. His birthday was on September 29th and I held his ashes and cried all day long. Alot of people I talk to say that it doesn't get better, it just gets easier. I am waiting for that day to come. However on the upside this site has helped and your post made me feel connected. Thank you [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: MD [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 00:35:32 10/21/06 Sat I'm sitting here looking at the Message Board to see if anyone has responded to my story that I left a few days ago, and than all of a sudden all these "loss of a brother" stories for a while back are showing up, ( weird, for one because I've been crying all night long about my younger brother's death) the other weirdest thing is that I read your response about your brother and his bday is on the same day as my bday, Sept. 29th. and that right there just makes me think that I read these stories for a "REASON" ya know, my brother died 6 months ago, he was my best friend, even though we fought too much and didn't tell each other how much we loved each other, he still was my best friend and I feel like he was the only Love that was constant in my entire life. I miss him sooo much, and it's just good to know that how I feel is not abnormal, cause all iwant to do is be with him, i just want to be with him, i dont care about anything else anymore. I just dont know how to move on, it keeps getting worse and worse as the days go on because i'm realizeing that it's not a dream, and it's becoming more real to me every time i wake up. He's never going to walk through the front door again. His truck will never be parked in our driveway ever again, he'll never pretend to beat me up anymore, and he'll never pick me up and give me the biggest, most warm huge any brother could ever give their big sister. So I guess my point is that I understand,I wish there were more people out there to help me and help me understand and help me get through this. take care [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: No name [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 13:16:29 11/24/06 Fri Thank you so much for your post. I am so sorry for your loss. Reading what you're going through made me fell less alone. I lost my baby sister and best friend 10 weeks ago in a car accident. She was 27 and the reality of what has happened to me and my family is still not real. We were incredibly close, she knew me better than anyone, I had no secrets from her and I feel like a huge part of me died with her in that car. I am trying to go on and figure out who I am now without her but moving on feels like a betrayal. I still talk to her everyday and I write her letters in my grief journal. It helps, but i'd give anything to have her back. Hang in there...I hope it helps to know you are not alone. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: nd (sad) [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 18:42:41 12/06/10 Mon Im so sorry for all your losses.My younger brother passed away 4 years today.We had a mass in the morning and my parents have gone to the cemetary.Im going in the afternoon to spend some time with him.I still feel so empty inside and the pain still aches.I tend to keep myself busy alot and i find that keeps my mind distracted so im not constantly thinking of him.I miss him so much and i agree that you need time to carry on with our lifes but we will never forget.I also find talking to certain people at times can help and its also true that some people dont understand but i dont hold that aganist them.I know my brother was a true angel and all your loved ones are too.I know that they are all in a beautiful paradise and are around us to guide and help us.One day i know we will be together forever but not yet has i know how close we were as bros as he was my only brother and the baby of our family.Has hard as it is we find some strengh from somewhere to keep going through our lifes and reading other peoples losses is so sad but maybe something we all say can help each other in someway. Stay safe and take care [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: No name (Hopeful) [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 07:12:11 12/31/10 Fri I hope that you have gained some sense of peace since you posted about your brother's death. What makes it particularly difficult is the suddenness of it--you had no warning. It takes awhile to absorb what has happened--the reality of it, and then you start dealing with the feelings of loss. It takes many many experiences of waking up and realizing that he is not coming back to teach your self that it's true. I'm glad you have your children and that one of them is named for your brother. It's a kind of legacy. Take care of yourself in what must be a busy life taking care of children. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: DJ [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 13:17:51 02/17/11 Thu I just googled "lost a brother my best friend" and ended up here. I am sorry for your losses , I know the pain you feel and the sadness. I just lost my little brother and best friend , a few hours after we both watched my father take his last breadth. My fathers death was expected - he was 92 - and very sick , we knew it was coming ... my brother who was 52 died in his sleep that night , and that was not expected , he was in good health. We think he had a heart attack although we are not sure yet. He has been my best friend throughout our whole lives - we have been together at every stage of our lives , birthdays, funerals, weddings - we were each others best man and godfather to each others first born - we have been through every up and down , major and trivial forever - it did not get closer than my brother and I , and I have a hole in my heart that will never go away. I have tears steaming down my face as I type this , and it has been two weeks since he died ... I have three kids and a beautiful wife - and I know I need to be there for all of them , it just seems that my life has now become unimportant to me ... In losing my brother I have lost a major part of me [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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