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Subject: Lost my little sister

Author: Brianne

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 15:57:28 09/25/08 Thu I stumbled upon this site while researching a book that I plan to write before I begin college next fall. It would seem wrong to visit and read other posts but not leave something of my own. So, I'm Brianne, I'm 17 and I lost my little sister in 2001 to an accident. I've spent all of these years feeling a multitude of random feelings, but never once did I feel acceptance. I think I've always been stuck in denial/anger, although I haven't really ever denied it too much. I'm more angry than anything because she was really little and we were always acting like twins, so my mom compensated for that by dressing us alike quite often. My family is pretty religious, but I began resenting that, blaming their god for taking her away from me. And now I just don't believe anymore, but I try so hard not to show it because it would make my mom sad. My schoolwork has been affected for all of these years. I've spent so much time inside my own head that I forget to look out and see the world. I regret a lot of that. Also, I've noticed that I'm less willing to talk about her now. Over the past few months (I'd say about ten months-ish), I cringe if I hear her name (which doesn't happen a lot because no one talks about it) and if someone doesn't know the story, I'm less willing to tell it. In fact, I don't. I let my friends tell. I'm so used to grief now that I don't think letting go of it would be easy. Well, thanks for letting me rant a little. Brianne [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Lost my little sister

Author: Sarah [Edit]

Date Posted: 15:00:17 09/29/08 Mon Dear Brianne, I am so sorry about your little sister--I know you must miss her terribly. It helped me to read Dr white's book--Sibling Grief: Healing after the death of a sister or brother. I found out how hard it had been for me to have no one acknowledge that I was also affected by the death of my younger sister. No one wanted to talk about it so I didn't know that. I'm glad you visited here--it's a good first step. But don't be afraid to go to the doctor if you need too. You've been sad and inward for a long time. Sarah [ Post a Reply to This Message ]