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Subject: Loss of my sister

Author: Suzanne (Sad)

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 01:12:00 03/12/09 Thu Hi, I lost my sister 10th November 2008. She was 41 years old and left two young girls aged 5 and 7. She had been diagnosed with thyroid cancer three years ago and had many operations over the three years. The radiotherapy that they gave her was so strong that it ruined her tubes in her throat. She hadn't eaten or drank anything for the last 18months of her life. Her last operation was on the 4th November 08. She pulled through even though they found a blood clot in her lungs. (After she had died the consultant told us they had also found another cancerous lump in her throat but had decided not to tell my sister or any of the family so that she could recovery from her op. The op was to remove her voice box and this was meant to be the start of a new life for her. My other sister and I saw her on the Sunday and she looked well and had written to her daughters saying that they could come and visit her in a couple of days. The next morning I texted her like I always did and got no reply. 10mins later my other sister rang to say that she had hemerraged (spelt wrong)and had died. Four months on I miss her like mad, we spoke everyday and I miss that contact so much. I feel like I still have so much to say to her but that has been taken away now. Not sure how to move on. She was the middle sister and even though I still have one big sister who is great that gap is still there for both of us. Sometimes I feel that our family is pulling apart as we are all at different stages of our grief. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Loss of my sister

Author: Ruth (sympathy) [Edit]

Date Posted: 19:15:44 04/17/09 Fri Dear Suzanne, I'm so sorry for your loss--you described it so well, I felt like I was experiencing it with you. There is something so poignant about a woman dying and leaving behind her children. I know that you will always love her and your nieces will find something of their mom in you. Please don't stop writing to her and talking to her even though she has passed on. Just put one foot in front of the other and take it day by day. She was blessed to have a sister like you. Ruth [ Post a Reply to This Message ]