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] Date Posted: 18:42:45 11/08/10 Mon My big sister Nikky died on July 8th 2009. She was 23 years old and was found by my mom in bed. We later found out that she died of a condition called right ventricular dysplasia. She was my only sibling and completely opposite from me but in the best way (Im sure all of you other siblings can relate). I was 21 and away at school when she died and coming home that day to see my parents on the front lawn was the most terrible thing I have ever had to do. I stayed home with my parents for the rest of the summer and returned to school in September for my final year of university. I have now just started a Masters degree in a new city which is extremely research intensive. I also moved into a new apartment by myself. I have always loved and excelled at school, but this year I am finding that I dont have the slightest bit of interest in anything. I am getting extremely scared of where my mind is going and recognize that I do need to talk to a professional. I was wondering if anyone had advice for someone in my position. Would it be wise to leave school and deal with these feelings or push through while still seeking help. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: Sandy [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 17:29:52 11/28/10 Sun Hi, my heart goes out to you. My experience may assist you in finding the answers that are right for you. In Aug 1998 my 14yr daughter died by hit N run drunk driver, she was walking home at the time. My other daughter, her younger sister by two years was the one to find her on the side of the road. That was twelve years ago and she has never sought help, nor was I able to get her to attend any counseling of anykind. Today she is angry with me and our relationship is almost nill. I cry for the love of my living child and am finally at peace with the loss of my oldest. I was in such a fog that I wasn't able to help my youngest through the tragedy of loss. I couldn't see beyond my own pain. It's extremely important for parents not to forget the living children at home and in my case, I wish there had been someone around that would have assisted me in giving time and attention to my living child. Anyway, had she gotten the counseling as I did, I believe that she would be better off today. Although she is 25yrs old, she's angry and stuck at 12yrs, thus hindering other parts of her life. So, to you I say 'get the counseling' and do the best you can with schooling. Even if you were to do the classes twice, you'd be done compared to the time it takes to emotionally recover from the loss of a sibling. I wish you the best and when I think of you, I will say a little prayer. God Bless You Dear! [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Laura [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 15:28:15 12/05/10 Sun I lost my sister on October 17th, 2010, to septic shock. She was 49 years old, the wounds are very fresh and I have an older brother and two other sisters. We all are grieving at different levels. My youngest sister is 41 and in turmoil daily. I work full-time, have classes on-line, which I find very therapeutic, it keeps me going, keeps my mind busy. My other sister who is 51 is handling it one hour at a time but is moving forward, my brother does not speak to us. Our relationship with our sister that past has been strained but we still loved her. We are all at fault for not mending fences, but she never stopped reaching out, until she got very ill. I had not seen her in three years and now she was on a ventilator in septic shock, and not going to make it. We had to make the decision to take her off life support and it has been devastating to deal with that alone. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: No name [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 18:34:57 11/03/12 Sat I ended up taking off school and work to deal with my grief. It was too hard to focus on anything else for me when i let myself feel the pain i needed to to start to heal [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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