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] Date Posted: 9/10/06 17:52 Well, she finally tld me to go away or something. What I don't understand is why she is reading my emails still and hasn't just deleted them??? She's reading my emails but now out of the blue decided to tell me to go, why didn't she do it before??? i need a whole lot of healing energy. I'm loosing it. She done this before and her reason for doing this before was to isolate me to get me to open up to her again. Could this be the same thing??? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: whitewolf [Edit] |
Date Posted: 9/10/06 18:18 If she wants you to go why do you want to stay? The best way to heal yourself and this situation (imo) is to step back and leave well alone. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Brianna [Edit] |
Date Posted: 9/10/06 18:42 I don't want to loose her but I dunno what to do???? I am so confused and scared and hurt and I don't know how to deal??? [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: whitewolf [Edit] |
Date Posted: 9/10/06 19:11 You can't force yourself on her, just as you can't force her to want you around. Step back from the situation, give her the space she's asking for - if you two are meant to be friends then she will come back to you when the time is right. If you truly love her you need to let go. Try and find something else to keep your mind off the situation - get out and meet new people, or start a new hobby, focus on your own path... dwelling on pain only makes the pain deeper. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Wildflower [Edit] |
Date Posted: 9/10/06 19:51 Let go of her and heal yourself. Is she really a real friend ? You deserve better ! Many blessing and light to you ! Therese [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Ash [Edit] |
Date Posted: 9/10/06 21:47 You clearly don't have her to loose her. In your eyes you have something special, but it seems you've misread something as she is not interested. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: zenwind [Edit] |
Date Posted: 9/10/06 23:16 The healing energy you ask for from others also needs to be topped up somewhat by yourself towards yourself. Please stop this cycle that is hurting you so much. Direct some love towards yourself, and towards other people in the world. Find a mirror to reflect back to you some harmony, in the shape of a different friend, nature, your path, hobbies. You have to be more gentle on yourself and work hard to stop this mental gynmastics over her! Look at how upset you are! And if a friend of mine 'isolated' me to get me to 'open up' I would feel horribly manipulated so even if this is the case, and really you can't know, it isn't loving behaviour! Plus if someone told me to leave them alone, I would....if you don't honour an explicit request like this, well it could be classed as harrassing someone. It is painful when a friendship changes, but perhaps it is a blessing in disguise as she clearly is unable to be a friend to you right now..... namaste zenwind [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Lilly from the Valley [Edit] |
Date Posted: 10/10/06 15:37 I can actually see this from both sides. Whilst you friend appears to be controlling and hurtful towards you, if you are constantly overbearing, then sometimes people are driven to behave in this way in a hope that they get message across. I also see that this must be hurting you a great deal. I agree with Zenwind. You have to learn to love yourself before anyone can love you properly. The choice IS yours. You can choose to continue playing the victim and in a strange way enjoy feeling hurt or you can chose to take control of yourself, nourish and cherish yourself. Dont allow anyone to hurt you but in the same taken you must not allow yourself to hurt anyone either. Im sorry if this sounds harsh but YOU need to do something about healing yourself - no one else can. Keep busy and occupy yourself with other things that you can learn to enjoy. When and if your friend does come back to you, you both need to sit down and put the cards on the table. Agree that whilst you have been very possessive, she has also been very hurtful. You must agree not to hurt each other again intentionally and if you cant, then she doesnt deserve to be your friend and you must move on. Lil [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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