Since Brianna seems curious about smoking and has held a cig., she will surely be trying to smoke SOON. It will probably be a better experience for her to smoke first with you or her cousins than under a pressured situation, so you should let her feel comfortable about trying a cig. if she wants to. If she enjoys it, then you'll have a new smoker in the house.
Then, if Jennifer's interested in smoking, she will follow soon, too. If one or both parents smoke, it's difficult to enforce a no-smoking rule. Your kids will probably be resentful, and may sneak around smoking, anyway.
Now, if you decide to quit smoking, you may have a fighting chance with your kids. Is that a possibility?
Just my thoughts - I may be totally off base.
L
>I am hardly a teen but I still feel young at heart
>even though I smoke. I am 33 and had my oldest
>daughter when I was non-smoking 16 year old. I
>married her father, finished high school, and got my
>CNA certificate (and started smoking shortly
>thereafter fully aware how bad smoking was for my
>health). After high school I worked full time while
>my hubby worked part time and attended the college.
>We married young but outside of a few bumps we've had
>a great 15 years. He started out as a teller and once
>he graduate moved up to a service teller (a behind the
>desk job). He's now the senior savings analyst since
>he got his CFS (a mutual fund investment designation).
> I am glad he enjoys his job because I couldn't do it.
> Why the long introduction. I don't know maybe I feel
>the need to always explain myself once I mention I
>have a kid so young. I swear people hear child and 16
>and think "trailer trash." Maybe it's just me...or
>maybe it's time for a cigarette.
>
>I never thought I would be the type to love cooking or
>smoking for that matter. I hated both when I was
>younger but after getting married young, money was
>tight for a few years. I learned to cook for
>necessity and smoke for relaxation. Now I really
>enjoy both of them. I especially love the holidays
>when I can cook for 8, 10, or more. Yesterday was no
>exception and I had a crowd including my parents, my
>husband's mother and his brother and wife, my sister
>and her husband, and my brother. My brother is the
>youngest and has two boys 11 and 7 his wife got
>pregnant with a girl two years ago they were so happy.
>
>On Saturday my brother-in-law and his wife came into
>town but they stayed at my mother-in-laws so we didn't
>see them until Sunday at church, followed by
>breakfast, and then dinner at my house that evening.
>They live two hours away and we don't see them often
>due to the long drive. My daughter also enjoys seeing
>her cousins especially my sister's daughter Jessica.
>I was a little up set with my daughter after breakfast
>on Sunday when she rudely said "Do you think Jessica
>will be smoking at dinner?" My daughter is a full
>fledged anti-smoker and it bothered her that Jessica
>started smoking at the beginning of the school year.
>It bothered her even more that she was smoking an
>after dinner cigarette at Thanksgiving. Thankfully
>Jessica hasn't smoked much around Brianna as the two
>are inseparable and have been since about the age of
>two.
>
>After dinner yesterday my two nieces look at each
>other and then look at their mom. I thought something
>was wrong with dessert. Their mom nodded her head and
>the girls quietly got up and excused themselves. I
>yelled out we have other desserts than just key lime
>pie. My sister-in-law smiled and said they'd be in
>for some brownies and ice cream later. No sooner had
>she spoken, then Caitlyn, her oldest, who will be 17
>in August asked her mother for her lighter. Her
>husband and the girls father tossed Caitlyn his
>lighter.
>
>My father, Brianna, and I were all shocked. Jessica
>thought is was cool but she too was surprised. My
>youngest daughter, of 15, watched in suspense. Next
>thing you know all the kids are out on the back porch.
> Randy, Jessica (brother and sister), Brianna,
>Jennifer (sisters), Caitlyn, Sarah (sisters), and
>Marcus my brother's oldest son. They were all
>encouraging each other to smoke except for Marcus and
>Brinna. I heard Randy had one and he's as big an anti
>as my daughter. Caitlyn and Jessica both asked if
>Brianna could have one and my response was that if you
>can get her to smoke and get out of my hair about
>quitting be my guest. This morning Caitlyn said
>Brianna was tempted last night and almost had one.
>Jessica confirmed the same and said for the first time
>Brianna asked serious questions about it
>
>All the cousins are staying up here this week since
>school is off. Jessica, Caitlyn, Sarah, and Randy are
>all planning to smoke tomorrow night while us parents
>go out for happy hour and dinner. Randy told his
>sister Jessica he's looking forward to his third smoke
>tomorrow night. Who knows if Brianna will come out
>and join the smoking ranks. Jennifer asked me last
>night if she could try it. I said No!. She was a
>little upset since Sarah is just three months older.
>It might be nice to have a smoking daughter or as
>least one less anti-smoking than mine. However, I
>don't want to encourage a 15 year old to smoke. She
>will be 16 soon enough and they'll be plenty more
>holidays.
>
>Supposedly Brianna even held a cigarette last night
>but chickened out when Caitlyn flicked her Bic.
>Imagine that a Mom saying "chickened out". Part of me
>would like to see her enjoy smoking but another part
>of me wants her to remain a non-smoker. I just hope I
>made the right decision about Jennifer. She's only
>young once and I hate to take away an enjoyable week
>with her cousins. Suggestions, comments?
>
>What a novel. Thanks for reading
>
>Donna
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