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Date Posted: 07:15:15 04/11/07 Wed
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In reply to:
's message, "Smoking Mom" on 01:14:45 04/10/07 Tue
Thanks for sharing the great story with us.I think you shouldn't worry about your daughters starting to smoke.With all that is going on around with her cousins and all shes probably just curious with all of them smoking. Chances are she just wants to see what its like to smoke and was looking to you for some level of approval from you so its "ok" for her to try it.If you wouldn't mind her smoking then you should let her or at least talk to her about how both of you feel about it.Maybe a part of her doesn't want to be left out if everyone is smoking or trying it out at least.And if shes that into trying it there is a very good chance she will end up smoking sometime in the future anyway.Wouldn't you rather enjoy it with her? Just a thought.
>I am hardly a teen but I still feel young at heart
>even though I smoke. I am 33 and had my oldest
>daughter when I was non-smoking 16 year old. I
>married her father, finished high school, and got my
>CNA certificate (and started smoking shortly
>thereafter fully aware how bad smoking was for my
>health). After high school I worked full time while
>my hubby worked part time and attended the college.
>We married young but outside of a few bumps we've had
>a great 15 years. He started out as a teller and once
>he graduate moved up to a service teller (a behind the
>desk job). He's now the senior savings analyst since
>he got his CFS (a mutual fund investment designation).
> I am glad he enjoys his job because I couldn't do it.
> Why the long introduction. I don't know maybe I feel
>the need to always explain myself once I mention I
>have a kid so young. I swear people hear child and 16
>and think "trailer trash." Maybe it's just me...or
>maybe it's time for a cigarette.
>I never thought I would be the type to love cooking or
>smoking for that matter. I hated both when I was
>younger but after getting married young, money was
>tight for a few years. I learned to cook for
>necessity and smoke for relaxation. Now I really
>enjoy both of them. I especially love the holidays
>when I can cook for 8, 10, or more. Yesterday was no
>exception and I had a crowd including my parents, my
>husband's mother and his brother and wife, my sister
>and her husband, and my brother. My brother is the
>youngest and has two boys 11 and 7 his wife got
>pregnant with a girl two years ago they were so happy.
>On Saturday my brother-in-law and his wife came into
>town but they stayed at my mother-in-laws so we didn't
>see them until Sunday at church, followed by
>breakfast, and then dinner at my house that evening.
>They live two hours away and we don't see them often
>due to the long drive. My daughter also enjoys seeing
>her cousins especially my sister's daughter Jessica.
>I was a little up set with my daughter after breakfast
>on Sunday when she rudely said "Do you think Jessica
>will be smoking at dinner?" My daughter is a full
>fledged anti-smoker and it bothered her that Jessica
>started smoking at the beginning of the school year.
>It bothered her even more that she was smoking an
>after dinner cigarette at Thanksgiving. Thankfully
>Jessica hasn't smoked much around Brianna as the two
>are inseparable and have been since about the age of
>After dinner yesterday my two nieces look at each
>other and then look at their mom. I thought something
>was wrong with dessert. Their mom nodded her head and
>the girls quietly got up and excused themselves. I
>yelled out we have other desserts than just key lime
>pie. My sister-in-law smiled and said they'd be in
>for some brownies and ice cream later. No sooner had
>she spoken, then Caitlyn, her oldest, who will be 17
>in August asked her mother for her lighter. Her
>husband and the girls father tossed Caitlyn his
>My father, Brianna, and I were all shocked. Jessica
>thought is was cool but she too was surprised. My
>youngest daughter, of 15, watched in suspense. Next
>thing you know all the kids are out on the back porch.
> Randy, Jessica (brother and sister), Brianna,
>Jennifer (sisters), Caitlyn, Sarah (sisters), and
>Marcus my brother's oldest son. They were all
>encouraging each other to smoke except for Marcus and
>Brinna. I heard Randy had one and he's as big an anti
>as my daughter. Caitlyn and Jessica both asked if
>Brianna could have one and my response was that if you
>can get her to smoke and get out of my hair about
>quitting be my guest. This morning Caitlyn said
>Brianna was tempted last night and almost had one.
>Jessica confirmed the same and said for the first time
>Brianna asked serious questions about it
>All the cousins are staying up here this week since
>school is off. Jessica, Caitlyn, Sarah, and Randy are
>all planning to smoke tomorrow night while us parents
>go out for happy hour and dinner. Randy told his
>sister Jessica he's looking forward to his third smoke
>tomorrow night. Who knows if Brianna will come out
>and join the smoking ranks. Jennifer asked me last
>night if she could try it. I said No!. She was a
>little upset since Sarah is just three months older.
>It might be nice to have a smoking daughter or as
>least one less anti-smoking than mine. However, I
>don't want to encourage a 15 year old to smoke. She
>will be 16 soon enough and they'll be plenty more
>Supposedly Brianna even held a cigarette last night
>but chickened out when Caitlyn flicked her Bic.
>Imagine that a Mom saying "chickened out". Part of me
>would like to see her enjoy smoking but another part
>of me wants her to remain a non-smoker. I just hope I
>made the right decision about Jennifer. She's only
>young once and I hate to take away an enjoyable week
>with her cousins. Suggestions, comments?
>What a novel. Thanks for reading
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