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Subject: Hurting loving an addict


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Peggy Eagle (fearful)
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Date Posted: 12:56:28 07/27/07 Fri

I have been married to a marijuana addict for 30 years. A few years ago, he's work slowed down and he wanted to start growing "pot to support his $400-$500 a month habit. It started in a closet and then took over the entire 2nd floor of the house and soon spread to the first floor. I was terrified of being discovered by family and police. He was running air condstioners in the winter. I was too afraid to leave and the bottom line is we were both arrested when police came to the house last year. He is facing jail time and I'm on probation with lots of fines. The good news is he has discover a men training called the new warriors. It has done wonders for him. I tried working with a radical forgiveness coach but the techniques did't work for me. I was just stuck in my feelings. Recently did some research into emotional abuse and see that my life story fits the pattern. I am eagerly looking forward to doing the online program and having a coaching session. I want to heal from this abuse and go forward with a healthy relationship.

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Hi Peggy - thanks for the email. I would recommend 2 classes in particular. The first one is on Anger (class #8) and the 2nd one is #17 - "Forgive THEM??" When it comes to forgiveness, in order to honestly do it, it must be safe for you. It sounds like you have not gotten the information you need in order to feel that authentic change will happen. You have the right to ask for a plan of action so that if you decide to let this person in your life again (and just to let you know, forgiveness does not always mean that you let someone back in your life) you need a plan. Hope this helps and feel free to call the office at 949.718.1275 to book your Life Coaching either in person or on the phone.Dr. Tracy Kemble10:02:46 09/13/07 Thu


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